Make Your Damn Bed

Doomerism is an epidemic (by design) so it's time we push back against it. The future is only hopeless, if you give up hope. If you believe “Everything’s broken, and nothing matters." You're right. If you believe "Everything's broken, and everything matters." You're also right. Wars don't end when one side destroys the other, it ends when one side gives up. Giving up, means losing the war. Hopelessness is the problem. Treat it as one. THE SOURCES:https://www.revitalizewellnesscounseling.com/blog/nihilism-and-doomerismhttps://www.mindjournal.blog/what-does-meliorism-meanNatasha Bedingfield UnwrittenOptimism is rebellionhttps://gracecounsellingandtherapy.in/blog/overcoming-cynicism-and-hopelessness-about-the-future/Other important stuff: Support the BDS movement.organize clothing swaps with your friends.Get free resources from Annas Archive.Join your local DSABecome a READING PARTNERRead Julie's Medium Blog.Support JULIE (and the show!)Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOK.Info on War Tax Resistance.Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund and the Sudan Relief FundThe opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.

We don't notice the progress because it's everywhere. We notice the terrible stuff because of cognitive biases, which is fair. But doomerism is a dangerous and slippery slope. Practice intentional, conscious, stubborn optimism. Pick a lane and take some action. Build hope strategically. You can make a difference, which will change the way you think and feel, which will make you even more effective in your actions, which will continue to spiral upward until you realize you have made a huge difference and things were never doomed. THE SOURCES:https://www.mindjournal.blog/what-does-meliorism-meanNatasha Bedingfield UnwrittenOptimism is rebellionhttps://gracecounsellingandtherapy.in/blog/overcoming-cynicism-and-hopelessness-about-the-future/Other important stuff: Support the BDS movement.organize clothing swaps with your friends.Get free resources from Annas Archive.Join your local DSABecome a READING PARTNERRead Julie's Medium Blog.Support JULIE (and the show!)Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOK.Info on War Tax Resistance.Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund and the Sudan Relief FundThe opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.

Choosing to look at the future as something you have a say in, is punk as fuck. Meliorism: The belief that the human condition can be improved through concerted effort.The belief that there is an inherent tendency toward progress or improvement in the human condition.https://www.mindjournal.blog/what-does-meliorism-meanNatasha Bedingfield UnwrittenOptimism is rebellionhttps://gracecounsellingandtherapy.in/blog/overcoming-cynicism-and-hopelessness-about-the-future/Other important stuff: Support the BDS movement.organize clothing swaps with your friends.Get free resources from Annas Archive.Join your local DSABecome a READING PARTNERRead Julie's Medium Blog.Support JULIE (and the show!)Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOK.Info on War Tax Resistance.Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund and the Sudan Relief FundThe opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.

True safety doesn't come from a partner promising they will never hurt you (a promise no human can permanently guarantee). True safety comes from promising yourself that if your boundaries are crossed, you love yourself enough to walk away. Unfortunately there is no cheat code to finding a better relationship that is safe in every way. Being a human being, having a human experience means you’re not bigger than the program. “You are loved just for being who you are, just for existing. You don't have to do anything to earn it. Your shortcomings, your lack of self-esteem, physical perfection, or social and economic success - none of that matters. No one can take this love away from you, and it will always be here.” — Ram DassTHE SOURCES:Eliza Day on Fearing being Judged National Library of Medicine Research on exposure based therapy ShineMommyShine on Believing the Judgement Anxiety Specialists on Why the Fear of Judgement is not about other people Other important stuff: Support the BDS movement.organize clothing swaps with your friends.Get free resources from Annas Archive.Join your local DSABecome a READING PARTNERRead Julie's Medium Blog.Support JULIE (and the show!)Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOK.Info on War Tax Resistance.Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund and the Sudan Relief FundThe opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.

I’ve been thinking a lot about trust and consideration and love. Naturally, I’ve been very bitter about some things going on in my personal life and it convinced me for a second there that I didn’t love or trust the world around me and that I would never trust another human again. Wen in reality, I didn’t hate the world around me I hate the internal process I wasn’t allowing myself to fully experience. One way Ive been combatting this line of thinking is through reality checks and one of the most important reminder for myself lately is that I dont actually distrust everyone and everything. Every time I get in my car I Trust the manufacturer, the guy who does my brakes, my oil changes, the guy who makes the roads. Maybe I dont know or trust them in intimate ways, but ti doesn’t mean I don't have some love and compassion and appreciation for the version of that person who made the road or changed my tires or did my oil. Some people are really fucking… not smart… and some people really fucking annoying and some are a combination of dumb and annoying. We have to love them anyway. Perfection is not a prerequisite for human connection or emotional care. Every human being has limitations, mistakes, and vulnerabilities; expecting flawlessness is unrealistic. A person's intrinsic value and capacity for belonging do not depend on constant performance or error-free conduct.Plenty of flawed people are in real, loving relationships. Do I believe they don’t deserve to be loved just because they are flawed? I try my best to be perfect, because in some way it makes me feel like I can get away from being abandoned or cheated on or lied to or hurt. But that’s not how any of this works. Part of what makes falling and being in love so magical and deep and beautiful is that it is inherently a risk. You are putting your faith in another person. And sometimes those people will disappoint you. Sometimes those people will disappoint themselves. There’s nothing you can do about that. But being hotter (or richer or cooler or more botoxed or whatever) won’t protect you from that. Meg Thee Stallion, Beyonce, Dolly, Sandra Bullock, Halle Berry, Eva Longoria, Reese Witherspoon, Shakira, Robert Pattinson, Every Kardashian, Nia fucking Long, and these are just the publicized ones. Nobody is safe from heartbreak and being disappointed by a person. We often weaponize self-improvement. We try to become the hottest, smartest, or most flawless version of ourselves as a subconscious shield. But you can't save yourself from other people's weaknesses + mistakes. You can only CHOOSE to love yourself despite it all. “You are loved just for being who you are, just for existing. You don't have to do anything to earn it. Your shortcomings, your lack of self-esteem, physical perfection, or social and economic success - none of that matters. No one can take this love away from you, and it will always be here.” — Ram DassTHE SOURCES:Eliza Day on Fearing being Judged National Library of Medicine Research on exposure based therapy ShineMommyShine on Believing the Judgement Anxiety Specialists on Why the Fear of Judgement is not about other people Other important stuff: Support the BDS movement.organize clothing swaps with your friends.Get free resources from Annas Archive.Join your local DSABecome a READING PARTNERRead Julie's Medium Blog.Support JULIE (and the show!)Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOK.Info on War Tax Resistance.Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund and the Sudan Relief FundThe opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.

"War doesn't end when one side dies, it ends when one side surrenders. If you have given up, it's already over. When you understand a system, what it feeds on, you can see there a lot of ways to change it for the better." "When you see people arguing that your vote doesn't matter, there's a REASON that's the message that gets pushed. Democracy is the bloodless revolution." - Portable OrangeFun facts: You should RESEARCH YOUR SAMPLE BALLOT and BRING NOTES to use while you vote. Don't post The source: A youtube video of Portable Orange on Curated Consent A google doc of The sources HE used, (source inception) Other important stuff: Support the BDS movement.organize clothing swaps with your friends.Get free resources from Annas Archive.Join your local DSABecome a READING PARTNERRead Julie's Medium Blog.Support JULIE (and the show!)Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOK.Info on War Tax Resistance.Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund and the Sudan Relief FundThe opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.

Modern design demands that your brain should constantly focus on productivity, metrics, optimization, and achievement. In late-stage consumerism, convenience is sold as a tool to save you time. But when technology strips away everyday friction (like instant delivery or one-click checkouts), it rarely gives you back leisure. Instead, it simply frees up your cognitive bandwidth so you can handle more work and consume more digital assets.Treat friction as a shield against expectations. Intentionally choose the inefficient route.The sources:Jerry Z. Muller's The Tyranny of Metrics. https://danielmiessler.com/blog/how-to-create-bad-metrics-incentivize-wrong-behaviorsGrading is ineffective (Medium Post) (YouTube) Can Metrics Destroy Societies?Well's Fargo Scandal Other important stuff: Support the BDS movement.organize clothing swaps with your friends.Get free resources from Annas Archive.Join your local DSABecome a READING PARTNERRead Julie's Medium Blog.Support JULIE (and the show!)Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOK.Info on War Tax Resistance.Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund and the Sudan Relief FundThe opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.

Humans will always focus on the easiest path towards positive feedback (or avoiding negative feedback). We love a little treat. If we're not careful (and we forget the human element), we will get so focused on the reward that we will forget the reason why we started the reward program in the first place. Sometimes our emotional world's and subjective experiences are what make us MORE reliable, not less.The focus on getting a high score actually distorts what we're scoring. The problem is not measurement, but a fixation on it. This is why teachers teach to a test, or why cops create fake crime accusations to meet quotas, or why doctors reject patients who need the most care. Quality quickly falls to the wayside to quantity, which is often a bad thing. More examples: The cobra effect, the Hanoi rat problem, the broken dinosaur bone problem, tax refunds for carbon credits, "bug bounties" for programmers, rage bait being "engagement" on social media, banks selling loans to meet quotas, The McNamara Strategy", "No child left behind", are all examples of well intentioned incentive programs being distorted to meet metrics over spirit."When a measure becomes a target, it ceases to be a good measure." - Goodhart’s LawThe sources:Jerry Z. Muller's The Tyranny of Metrics. https://danielmiessler.com/blog/how-to-create-bad-metrics-incentivize-wrong-behaviorsGrading is ineffective (Medium Post) (YouTube) Can Metrics Destroy Societies?Well's Fargo Scandal Other important stuff: Support the BDS movement.organize clothing swaps with your friends.Get free resources from Annas Archive.Join your local DSABecome a READING PARTNERRead Julie's Medium Blog.Support JULIE (and the show!)Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOK.Info on War Tax Resistance.Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund and the Sudan Relief FundThe opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.