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1744 || your sign to do some arts + crafts (and go play)
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We know that Breathwork, nourishment, sleep, and a safe environment regulate your nervous system.
Play regulates your nervous system, too.
Touch regulates your nervous system, sensory deprivation does too.
Nature regulates your nervous system, so does being around community.
Travel regulates your nervous system, and so does returning to your home.
Routine can regulate your nervous system, and so can spontaneity.
Both stillness and movement, sunlight and moonlight, predictability and novelty.
It's nuanced and paradoxical and it's about you staying conscious and flexible.
It's about embodying what you want to feel.
I think the key is balancing what works. And if you’re alive, you’ve already been doing that. Maybe not healthily or sustainably, but you’ve been doing it. It’s never gonna be the easiest work, but you can make it easier. By relaxing into it. Letting everything become an experiment and only allowing your experience guide you, not trap you into thinking you can’t handle it differently.
“There will always be more to do. The cleaning and laundry won’t stop. The inbox will refill. The to-do list will rewrite itself overnight. But your life isn’t just a series of tasks to complete. Go for the walk. Call your friend. Slow down without trying to optimize the moment. You dont need to clear your entire life before you’re allowed to feel ease. Because if that’s the rule, ease will never come. So learn to pause in the middle of it, not at the end of it.” - Vex King
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