Make Your Damn Bed

Your brain does what is reliable, not what is best. It does what is safe, not what is productive. Our culture has shaped each and every one of us through rules + repetition. How has society tampered down the way you connect to your body and to others? How has society's expectations stifled you? How have our societal norms impacted the way you feel? and react?Can you buck some of those norms for a bit of nervous system regulation? If you can find a moment alone, scream. If you can find a moment to dance? Dance. Cry if you need to cry. Address the ways you've been holding yourself back from feeling your feelings, to appease some made up rules.SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bedDONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.netGET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastOR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica The opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.

optimize your cues + your environment to create + reinforce better habits + discourage your "not so good" ones. Time cues < (paired with another) action cues. "I will do this at 7 am every single day" is waaaaay harder to commit to than committing to something with something else, "I will do this after I do that." Intrinsic motivation > external rewards Tweak your environment to reduce the friction between you and your desired habit. Set yourself up for success + visualize it! Don't visualize the work. https://www.joincarbon.com/blog/the-neuroscience-of-habit-formationUse findhelp.org is an amazing website where you can type in your zip code and it will show you free or reduced-cost resources like food, housing, financial assistance, health care, and more. SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bedDONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.netGET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastOR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica The opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.

You can, in fact, teach an old dog new tricks - if you use a couple of old ones. Habits are formed and reinforced through repetition, salience (how much it stands out), time, intensity, specificity. Today we talk about what that means. https://www.carolinafnc.com/post/10-principles-of-neuroplasticityhttps://www.joincarbon.com/blog/the-neuroscience-of-habit-formationUse findhelp.org is an amazing website where you can type in your zip code and it will show you free or reduced-cost resources like food, housing, financial assistance, health care, and more. SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bedDONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.netGET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastOR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica The opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.

Repetition is how we learn, so be careful what (and who) you're listening to.The source: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-main-ingredient/202509/harnessing-the-power-of-repetition-for-good-and-evilMore reading: https://www.neurolab360.com/blog/principles-of-neuroplasticity-repetition-mattersUse findhelp.org is an amazing website where you can type in your zip code and it will show you free or reduced-cost resources like food, housing, financial assistance, health care, and more. SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bedDONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.netGET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastOR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica The opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.

Today we talk about how to build your tolerance for discomfort. THE SOURCE: https://shoesandshots.substack.com/p/discomfort-is-the-price-you-pay-forFurther reading: https://www.outsideonline.com/health/training-performance/dealing-pain-discomfort/and: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/living-well-when-your-body-doesnt-cooperate/202405/stretching-distress-toleranceUse findhelp.org is an amazing website where you can type in your zip code and it will show you free or reduced-cost resources like food, housing, financial assistance, health care, and more. SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bedDONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.netGET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastOR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica The opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.

It's not about giving in, and it's not about fighting it. Sometimes, you can just observe, ride the wave, and allow it to pass. Resisting Impulse Spending: https://www.inc.com/jessica-stillman/holiday-shopping-personal-finance-spending.htmlUrge Surfing: https://www.dartmouth-hitchcock.org/sites/default/files/2021-03/urge-surfing.pdfStop impulse Spending Hacks: https://bodybrainalliance.com/stop-impulse-spending-with-these-4-behavior-change-hacksUse findhelp.org is an amazing website where you can type in your zip code and it will show you free or reduced-cost resources like food, housing, financial assistance, health care, and more. PLEASE Watch Kendra Austin's video on Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8DyB7xE/The incomparable Dollar Tree Dinners: https://www.youtube.com/@DollarTreeDinnersHow to make Sandwich Bread: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8DyEXum/Cheap vegan friendly grocery inspiration: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8DyqykN/SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bedDONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.netGET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastOR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica The opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.

You are not a failure if you’re struggling right now, though it may feel like it. But your value and worth is not reflected in your ability to pay your bills that don’t stop growing, and your ability to get up and do anything beyond work that never stops coming. Poverty is a systemic failing, not a personal failing. Remember you can’t really think straight when you’re really “broke” (I don’t use the word “broke” lightly, I genuinely think it’s the government’s attempt to break us as individuals) so don't be hard on yourself if you're not thinking straight.Use findhelp.org is an amazing website where you can type in your zip code and it will show you free or reduced-cost resources like food, housing, financial assistance, health care, and more. PLEASE Watch Kendra Austin's video on Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8DyB7xE/The incomparable Dollar Tree Dinners: https://www.youtube.com/@DollarTreeDinnersHow to make Sandwich Bread: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8DyEXum/Cheap vegan friendly grocery inspiration: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8DyqykN/SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bedDONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.netGET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastOR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica The opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.

Did you know you can "hack your brain" for things beyond your productivity? You can become more resilient, more conscious, more in control, through a few simple practices.It's not about avoiding anything that makes us feel sad, but it's about becoming conscious of the process of engaging with it.It's not about the content, but the process. Empowering vs. Disempowering yourself.INSPIRED BY: https://adriennemareebrown.net/and https://everythingispolitical.com/readings/your-nervous-system-under-fascism-a-decolonial-polyvagal-explorationVery Well Mind on Brain plasticity: https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-brain-plasticity-2794886#:~:text=Strengthening%20existing%20pathways:%20Neurons%20that,adapt%20to%20the%20changing%20environment.Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bedDONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.netGET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastOR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica The opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.

Feeling disconnected or unsure? Dr. Pat suggests: Body Check-In: When you consume news about social or political issues, what sensations do you notice in your body? Do you feel tense, numb, energized?Triggers and Ancestry: Think about a recent moment you felt fear or shut down in response to authority or conflict. How might this reaction connect to your community’s historical or ancestral experiences?Finding Ventral Vagal: What people, places, or practices help you feel safe and connected? How can you incorporate more of these in daily life, especially when fear in society is high?From Reaction to Response: Recall a time you reacted in anger or froze up around an authoritarian figure/stressor. With compassion for yourself, consider how, if you had felt more grounded or supported, you might have responded differently? What support or boundaries would help in future similar situations?Collective Care: How can you contribute to a sense of safety and solidarity in your community? Could you start a trauma-informed discussion group, a community care circle, or simply check on neighbors more often?SOURCE: https://everythingispolitical.com/readings/your-nervous-system-under-fascism-a-decolonial-polyvagal-explorationDr. Pat's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pat.radical.therapist/?hl=enDr. Pat's substack: https://patradicaltherapist.substack.com/Dr. Pat's original post: https://www.facebook.com/photo/?fbid=1281714603957641&set=pcb.1281714660624302Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bedDONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.netGET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastOR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica The opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.