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1523 || becoming optimistic using the ABCDE method

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The ABCDE coaching model has five stages: Activating event or situation, Beliefs, Consequences, Disputation of the beliefs and Effective new approach to dealing with the problem. It's a coaching model that can help challenge your more pessimistic beliefs and actually improve how you respond to life.


The Source: https://worldofwork.io/2019/06/abcde-coaching-model/

A lil Worksheet: https://www.dau.edu/sites/default/files/Migrated/ToolAttachments/The%203Ps%20Worksheet.pdf

More sources: https://positivepsychology.com/albert-ellis-abc-model-rebt-cbt/

AND: https://www.mindfulnessmuse.com/cognitive-behavioral-therapy/gaining-control-is-as-easy-as-a-b-c-d-e


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