Lumes & Me.

This week we're talking about toxic positivity. You didn't know that positivity could be toxic did you? Neither did I until I learned all about it. I cover:Why thinking positive is so rarely the answer to finding inner peace and happinessThe purpose of our feelings and how to understand themWhy relying on "Good Vibes Only" is a surefire way to not be happyThe real key to actual happinessI've got us a brand new site where we can all convene - https://www.lumes.me. I'm beyond excited to bring this to you all especially because it's another way for us to make these themes we discuss so much more actionable. If you would like some help applying anything you've learned in the podcast to your own life or you're feeling stuck and don't know where to even begin, start here: https://www.lumes.me/coaching. You can also send me your dilemmas or any questions you're stuck on so we can address on a future episode! Can't wait to hear from you!Brene Brown's list of 87 emotion:https://brenebrown.com/resources/atlas-of-the-heart-list-of-emotions/====Links to donate to organisations helping refugees:https://www.unrefugees.org.uk/where-help-is-needed/https://www.gofundme.com/f/Support-Black-people-fleeing-Ukraine

This week we're talking about what real self care is and why it matters so much that we get it right. I cover:The difference between self care and self love (and yes there is a huge difference)How to recognise if you're self caring properlyThe surprising consequence of not going beneath the surfaceWhy your brain doesn't always like itAnd we have a brand new site where we can all convene - https://www.lumes.me. I'm beyond excited to bring this to you all especially because it's another way for us to make these themes we discuss so much more actionable. If you would like some help applying anything you've learned in the podcast to your own life or you're feeling stuck and don't know where to even begin, start here: https://www.lumes.me/coaching. You can also send in dilemmas or anything questions you're stuck on so we can address on a future episode! Can't wait to hear from you!More about self talk:https://www.lumes.me/post/the-unexpected-power-of-self-talkFind your attachment style:https://www.attachedthebook.com/wordpress/compatibility-quiz/?step=3====Links to donate to organisations helping refugees:https://www.unrefugees.org.uk/where-help-is-needed/https://www.gofundme.com/f/Support-Black-people-fleeing-Ukraine

This week we're talking about dealing with difficult people. I cover:How to understand your triggersWhat to do when you're stuck in a space with people who annoy youMore about boundaries: https://open.spotify.com/episode/003zF8JOyaJ8i8HcJwnO6D?si=gDlcnDQRTxaHIl03ILINLAAnd we have a brand new site where we can all convene - https://www.lumes.me. I'm beyond excited to bring this to you all especially because it's another way for us to make these themes we discuss so much more actionable. If you would like some help applying anything you've learned in the podcast to your own life or you're feeling stuck and don't know where to even begin, start here: https://www.lumes.me/coaching. You can also send in dilemmas or anything questions you're stuck on so we can address on a future episode! Can't wait to hear from you!====Links to donate to organisations helping refugees:https://www.unrefugees.org.uk/where-help-is-needed/https://www.gofundme.com/f/Support-Black-people-fleeing-Ukraine

In this episode, I share how I went from hating dating to being just about fine with it. I tell you how to get curious with yourself so you can too. As always, send in your dilemmas and share feedback with me at hello@lumes.me. If anything that resonates share it with your friends (and even people you don't really like).Start here for context: https://www.lumes.me/post/how-to-be-single-properlyOther guides:How to talk to yourself - https://www.lumes.me/post/the-unexpected-power-of-self-talkConfirmation bias - https://www.lumes.me/post/turning-bias-into-a-superpower-and-other-millennial-lessonsAnd we have a brand new site where we can all convene - https://www.lumes.me. I'm beyond excited to bring this to you all especially because it's another way for us to make these themes we discuss so much more actionable. If you would like some help applying anything you've learned in the podcast to your own life or you're feeling stuck and don't know where to even begin, start here: https://www.lumes.me/coaching. You can also send in dilemmas or anything questions you're stuck on so we can address on a future episode! Can't wait to hear from you!====Links to donate to organisations helping refugees:https://www.unrefugees.org.uk/where-help-is-needed/https://www.gofundme.com/f/Support-Black-people-fleeing-Ukraine

In this week's episode, we'll cover:What failure actually isWhy "forever" is a mythWhat you can actually do if a fear of failure is holding you backAnd we have a brand new site where we can all convene - https://www.lumes.me. I'm beyond excited to bring this to you all especially because it's another way for us to make these themes we discuss so much more actionable. If you would like some help applying anything you've learned in the podcast to your own life or you're feeling stuck and don't know where to even begin, start here: https://www.lumes.me/coaching. You can also send in dilemmas or anything questions you're stuck on so we can address on a future episode! Can't wait to hear from you!====Links to donate to organisations helping refugees:https://www.unrefugees.org.uk/where-help-is-needed/https://www.gofundme.com/f/Support-Black-people-fleeing-Ukraine

If you care about tech, pop culture, science, and/or health then this week's episode is for you! I started a podcast called Avocado Proust with my dear friend Jivan and every week we share interesting bits that caught our eye that week before diving deeper into our topic of the week.In this episode, we talk about Elon Musk, Gorillas, and Scarcity Mindsets.Listen to more episodes here: https://open.spotify.com/show/74xMbErmewmpRQiGB06dsP?si=b21cf7bcdd094955And we have a brand new site where we can all convene - https://www.lumes.me. I'm beyond excited to bring this to you all especially because it's another way for us to make these themes we discuss so much more actionable. If you would like some help applying anything you've learned in the podcast to your own life or you're feeling stuck and don't know where to even begin, start here: https://www.lumes.me/coaching. You can also send in dilemmas or anything questions you're stuck on so we can address on a future episode! Can't wait to hear from you!

Season 2! We're back, you're here, and I'm chuffed to bits! Let's get into it. In this week's episode, I'm getting older and hopefully wiser so here are 3 things that are on my mind as I advance through my elder millennial years. I talk about:Self awareness - what does it even mean?How "should" sabotages our ability to hit our full potentialWhy confirmation bias is not always a bad thing...And we have a brand new site where we can all convene - https://www.lumes.me. I'm beyond excited to bring this to you all especially because it's another way for us to make these themes we discuss so much more actionable. If you would like some help applying anything you've learned in the podcast to your own life or you're feeling stuck and don't know where to even begin, start here: https://www.lumes.me/coaching.My friend Jeeves and I's brand new podcast on tech, science, and culture - https://open.spotify.com/show/74xMbErmewmpRQiGB06dsP?si=771c4099e68447f5Elder millennial bants - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WO9qW20H0uMKito sandals - https://www.reddit.com/r/nostalgia/comments/6ycn59/the_early_90s_socks_with_sandal_fad/====Links to donate to organisations helping refugees:https://www.unrefugees.org.uk/where-help-is-needed/https://www.gofundme.com/f/Support-Black-people-fleeing-Ukraine

In this season finale, we're exploring what it means to be creative. Science says humans are all born creative but if that's the the case then why can't I draw? In this episode, I talk about:The ways creativity can manifestWhy you're probably more creative than you think you areHow to find and use your inner latent creativity - no art or tools requiredStudy on creativity in children and adults - https://youtube.com/watch?v=ZfKMq-rYtnc&feature=share4 minute creativity test (Divergent Association Task) - https://www.datcreativity.com/We will be back on April 30th! I miss you already!====Links to donate to organisations helping refugees:https://www.unrefugees.org.uk/where-help-is-needed/https://www.gofundme.com/f/Support-Black-people-fleeing-Ukraine