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Love Life With Matthew Hussey

“I’m nearly 40 and feel rushed to find love…help!”

Ep. 302

Do you feel like time is running out to find love? Whether you’re worried about starting a family, comparing yourself to friends who are coupled up, or just feeling urgent pressure to “catch up” in your dating life, this episode is for you. Matthew, Stephen, and Audrey explore how to handle dating confidently when the stakes feel high, and how to avoid letting fear and anxiety sabotage your decisions. If you’ve ever felt behind—unsure whether to stay hopeful or make a bold change—this episode will give you the tools to find love and ease the pressure others try to put on you.


In this episode we cover:

  • Why the fear of “running out of time” is so common in dating today.
  • How to create urgency without falling into panic mode.
  • The illusion of progress: How “distraction relationships” can quietly steal years of your life.
  • Real stats on women having children after 35.
  • How to stop comparing your timeline to everyone else’s.
  • Reframing societal pressure and internal anxiety.
  • Dating intentionally vs. dating reactively.
  • How to bring up having kids in early dating conversations.
  • The importance of a backup plan—and how it can actually help your love life.


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