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Dealing With Attachment Styles + Will They Ever Change?

Ep. 172

It's normal for us to date someone with a different attachment style from our own. But how do we know if someone is compatible with us longterm? And are there certain behaviours that tell us the relationship is ultimately doomed?


In this episode, Matt, Stephen and Audrey discuss attachment styles, how we can communicate with someone who shows a behaviour that makes us unsure about them, and if your partner can ever change.


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