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Let's Reconnect with Breanna Jayne Sada

Talking to our kids about porn, drugs, sex & puberty etc is so important

Season 1, Ep. 10
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On this weeks episode we are discussing why its so important to have uncomfortable conversations with our children. Our children have natural curiosities about lots of things including drugs and alcohol, relationships and all the things that make parents squirm. With exposure to these topics happening at younger and younger ages it has never been more important for parents to present themseleves as a safe calm adult to have these conversations with. Boys as young as 9 are being exposed to porn, children aged 11 and 12 have self reported that they have tried alcohol and drugs. Puberty especially for girls is happening at an increasingly younger age. If our children's natural curiosities are not being addresses and questions not being answered by their parents they will go elsewhere for these answers to their normal questions. In this episode im joined by a parent who recently had an uncomfortable conversation with their child and we discuss what it was how it went what preparation they did and why they felt it was important that the information came from them.


During the episode this parent speaks about a great book that I have linked here for you to look at (not sponsored) Michelle Mitchell's A Girl's Guide to Puberty that helped them have a helpful conversation with their child about puberty


We also discuss the new Chat GPT Health update that has been released

Let's Reconnect next episode. In the meantime, subscribe and follow our podcast and socials @breanna.jayne_psych @letsreconnect_pod. If you or your child would like to write in with a question or story, or you’d like to be a guest advocating for the needs of children and young people, please reach out.

Disclaimer:

The information in this podcast is general and not a substitute for individual clinical advice or treatment. While I am a registered psychologist, I am not providing personalised guidance here. Every child and family is different, and what’s discussed may not suit your situation.

If you have concerns, please seek support from a qualified mental health professional. For immediate help, contact Lifeline on 13 11 14, Kids Helpline on 1800 55 1800, or call 000 in an emergency.

Views expressed are my own and not those of any organisations I am associated with.

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