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Towards Leadership #8 'Part Two'

Season 3, Ep. 17

Welcome to Towards Leadership from Leadership Letters. 


This episode is part two as we look at how the Ego States or Parent-Adult-Child model developed by Eric Berne, can be useful to us as leaders.

Sometimes when our thinking and relationships at work feel stuck, it can be difficult to find a way to name and give voice to what is happening without getting into blame and judgement of each other and indeed of ourselves. It can also be difficult to think of ways to change and shift what feels stuck. It’s in taking responsibility for ourselves and our relationships, naming what’s happening, and doing something about it, that so many individuals and teams we have worked with have found this model useful.


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