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The Influential Leader - how to negotiate and influence for positive outcomes.

Season 7, Ep. 132

Sam Trattles, CEO and Lead Negotiation Strategist at Other Side of the Table, helps leaders negotiate better outcomes. In this episode we're going to explore:


  • The importance of influencing and negotiating for the right outcomes
  • What can leaders do to foster these skills in their team members?
  • How leaders can continually update and enhance their negotiation and influencing skills.
  • What are some practical strategies to consider when negotiating high-stakes negotiations - including salary negotiations?  


Links and Resources

Sam on LinkedIn and at her website: Other Side of the Table


Lead to Soar is a global online network for businesswomen, a podcast, and we host live-streaming and in person events to help women have a career that soars! The podcast is hosted by Mel Butcher (melbutcher.com) and Michelle Redfern (michelleredfern.com)

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