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L2S GSD! E62: Why Work Life Balance is BS!

Season 4, Ep. 62

Get Sh*t Done! (GSD!) are Lead to Soar's short, snappy, roughly ~10 minute mini-episodes to bring you a quick fix of career advice.

Mel and Michelle discuss why work-life balance is bullshit! Especially for women. They recommend that listeners challenge the notion of a two-dimensional existence (eg: work + life) and instead, consider striving for harmony where all the aspects of a person's life - family, interests, passion projects, and work can be integrated. Michelle also challenges the Patriarchy which assumes that women are still responsible for "balancing"  their career with the "3 C's" (cooking, cleaning, and caring).  

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    41:02||Season 7, Ep. 175
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    38:20||Season 7, Ep. 174
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    49:41||Season 7, Ep. 173
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    46:35||Season 7, Ep. 171
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  • 170. Why You Must Master the Art of Conversation for Leadership Growth

    13:58||Season 7, Ep. 170
    In this episode of the Lead to Soar podcast, Michelle Redfern explores the concept of learning conversations and their role in career and leadership development. Michelle shares how mastering the art of these informal but intentional discussions can significantly enhance your leadership journey.Key Discussion Points:What are Learning Conversations?Michelle defines learning conversations as informal, intentional dialogues with someone whose experience can help broaden your perspective. Unlike traditional mentoring, learning conversations are more flexible and less structured, focusing on real-time knowledge sharing and feedback.Why Learning Conversations Matter for LeadersResearch from Dan Pink emphasizes that asking smart, open-ended questions invites deeper engagement and leads to more meaningful learning experiences. Learning conversations allow leaders to develop cognitive diversity by connecting with people who have different lived experiences. This helps you become a more adaptable and agile leader.Practical Steps to Initiate Learning ConversationsMichelle shares actionable advice on how to start a learning conversation:1. Identify your goals or challenges.2. Reflect on who in your network might offer valuable insights.3. Frame your request thoughtfully to respect the other person’s time and expertise.4. Focus on active listening and mutual benefit during the conversation.The Coffee ExperimentMichelle challenges listeners to try The Coffee Experiment by reaching out to someone in their network for an informal conversation. This simple yet powerful strategy can help you test ideas, seek feedback, and develop deeper professional relationships.The Role of Confidence in Learning ConversationsMichelle emphasizes that asking for a learning conversation demonstrates leadership qualities such as self-awareness, emotional intelligence, and a willingness to grow. For women in particular, engaging in these conversations is a way to build confidence and navigate workplace challenges.Resources Mentioned:Dan Pink’s work on the power of questions in leadership (e.g., To Sell is Human)Holly Ransom’s Love Mondays newsletter on learning conversationsActionable Challenge:This week, try The Coffee Experiment. Reach out to someone in your network for a 30-minute conversation focused on learning from their experience. Frame your request thoughtfully, listen actively, and reflect on what you gain from the conversation.Join the Conversation:We’d love to hear how you’re using learning conversations in your leadership journey. Share your experiences with us on the Lead to Soar network or email us directly.
  • 169. Real Success Stories: How Hour of Power Transforms Careers

    14:08||Season 7, Ep. 169
    In this episode, Michelle Redfern discusses the Hour of Power, a weekly group coaching call within the Lead to Soar network. This session provides a safe and consistent space for women to share their career challenges and insights, offering practical advice, support, and a strategic network that empowers women to thrive. Michelle highlights the importance of psychological safety, the value of women supporting each other in their careers, and the real-world outcomes participants experience through Hour of Power.Key Takeaways:What is Hour of Power?Hour of Power is a weekly, one-hour online session where Lead to Soar members come together to share challenges, receive support, and engage in meaningful, action-oriented discussions. It's a safe space where women can show up, whether in strength or vulnerability, to receive practical and constructive advice.Consistency and Psychological Safety:The power of Hour of Power lies in its consistency and the psychological safety it provides. One participant describes it as, "The consistency of the experience and the psychological safety of the space. I can turn up in my robustness or my vulnerability, and both are met with honest, practical, and kind reflection." This safe, non-judgmental space enables women to explore career challenges and take meaningful risks.The Power of Women Supporting Women:Research, such as McKinsey’s Women in the Workplace report, highlights the importance of strong professional networks in advancing women’s careers. In Hour of Power, women support each other strategically, providing mentorship, sponsorship, and emotional support. One member noted, "Even if you don’t feel confident or want to talk, there is so much gold in this hour. The key takeaways are always—you are far from alone, the knowledge bank is next level, and the women in this community always help."Real-World Impact:Participants in Hour of Power have shared numerous success stories, from landing remote roles to negotiating promotions. As one participant said, "Hour of Power is my energy boost and a chance to engage my brain with brilliant, intelligent, supportive women." The session offers both tangible takeaways and a renewed sense of motivation and community.Call to Action for Leaders:Michelle challenges leaders to create similar safe spaces in their workplaces, ensuring that underrepresented and marginalized individuals have the opportunity to share their ideas and concerns. These spaces foster innovation, growth, and progress for both individuals and organizations.Resources Mentioned:Harvard Business Review: The Key to Inclusive LeadershipMcKinsey & Company: Women in the Workplace 2023Join the Lead to Soar Network:If you’re a Lead to Soar member and haven’t yet participated in Hour of Power, this is your invitation to join us. And if you’re not a member yet, visit Lead to Soar Network to learn more about how you can become part of this powerful community of women supporting women. leadtosoar.network/landing
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    19:43||Season 7, Ep. 168
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