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How To Break Trauma Bonds ft. Trauma Therapist Aleks Trkulja
Today we have not one but TWO amazing episodes with sex, relationship, body image and trauma therapist (AND Abbie's dear friend) Aleks Trkulja! In this ep Aleks will be talking all about TRAUMA BONDS! What are they? Does it always mean you're in an abusive relationship? What can you do to break the cycle?
If this episode has raised any issues, please know that help is always available. You can contact 1800RESPECT on 1800 737 732 or visit 1800respect.org.au. Full Stop Australia also provides 24/7 support online at fullstop.org.au/ or by calling 1800 385 578. If you or anyone you know is in immediate danger, call 000.
LINKS
- See Abbie on tour https://linktr.ee/abbiechatfieldlovesmen
- Learn more about Aleks Trkulja https://linktr.ee/ThePleasureCentre
- Follow Aleks on IG @_thepleasurecentre
- Send us your thoughts, topic suggestions, NMFs and more: https://forms.gle/S5Pf327SmVnnC8CE9
- Check out @itsalotpod on IG at https://bit.ly/itsalot-instagram.
- Review the podcast on Apple Podcasts https://bit.ly/ial-review
CREDITS
Host: Abbie Chatfield @abbiechatfield
Guest: Aleks Trkulja @_thepleasurecentre
Executive Producer and Editor: Amy Kimball @amy.kimball
It's A Lot Social Media Manager: Julia Toomey
Social Media and Marketing Strategist: Elizabeth Baxter
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