It Is Complicated


Why we need Queer Spaces

Season 1, Ep. 39

Why we need Queer Spaces - Special Episode for the Queer House Party Radio Show. You can see it here:


Talking about how we met and how queer spaces were involved in that - why queer spaces are needed and what they provide to queers that other spaces don’t - tldr; it’s being in a space where we are not in a minority- finding people like ourselves there, and seeing our experiences reflected from the stage.

Why the smoking areas in queer spaces are the community spaces we all need! The oral histories that are made in spaces like this - the celebrations, the care, and the mourning that can happen.

We also talk about the queer mindset that makes Queer House Party work so well - and why we pour ourselves into it. How making people feel “seen” makes our hearts sing!

Queer House Party - the iconic queer online party


Dr J’s TEDx talk - (raw streamed version with no captioning - the proper one will be up soon)


We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Episode 39 Transcript


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Give us feedback - we’re on twitter - - we’d love to connect with you about the need for Queer spaces in real life and online.

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Imposter Syndrome is complicated

Season 1, Ep. 41
Imposter Syndrome is complicated - if I had cis white straight man confidence I would..We talk about the impact of imposter syndrome on queers. The extra layers that we deal with at times - when you’ve been told by a culture that you’re not good enough, that you’re somewhat suspect - how do we start to enter more normative spaces?We give examples of how we overcome this when we face it - and how we fail to overcome it on our own - how we can get ourselves into establishment spaces. We talk about how it is something that we can bring Allies/Accomplices along to help us with. Even when we are the experts in the room, we fear so much being seen as arrogant when we are assertive, when we state our reality, when we challenge the status quo, that we doubt if we should be there. That self doubt means we reduce ourselves, we apologise, and mask our efforts.You can listen to Josephine try and get Dr J to have confidence in real time, and reflect how messed up the world is that we struggle to have confidence. How can we develop that “This is me, and that’s OK” confidence? For the record:Josephine Baird is a PhD applicant, and a lecturer in Game Design at the University of Uppsala - and is an expert on Trans representation and story telling in games.Dr J has a PhD in Immunology, works as a Service Designer/Business Analyst at ThoughtWorks, is a TEDx speaker, and is an expert on building inclusive teams that deliver.We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Episode 41 TranscriptOur Patreon - us feedback - we’re on twitter - - we’d love to connect with you about what you would do if you had cis white straight man confidence.