It Is Complicated


Why we need Queer Spaces

Season 1, Ep. 39

Why we need Queer Spaces - Special Episode for the Queer House Party Radio Show. You can see it here:


Talking about how we met and how queer spaces were involved in that - why queer spaces are needed and what they provide to queers that other spaces don’t - tldr; it’s being in a space where we are not in a minority- finding people like ourselves there, and seeing our experiences reflected from the stage.

Why the smoking areas in queer spaces are the community spaces we all need! The oral histories that are made in spaces like this - the celebrations, the care, and the mourning that can happen.

We also talk about the queer mindset that makes Queer House Party work so well - and why we pour ourselves into it. How making people feel “seen” makes our hearts sing!

Queer House Party - the iconic queer online party


Dr J’s TEDx talk - (raw streamed version with no captioning - the proper one will be up soon)


We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Episode 39 Transcript


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Give us feedback - we’re on twitter - - we’d love to connect with you about the need for Queer spaces in real life and online.

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Working from home is complicated

Season 1, Ep. 46
Based on a listener request for a discussion on working from home in the current culture environment from a perspective that is not a middle class straight white cis man - we touch on the advantages we have as queers that’s made this easier, and what advantages that others within our community might not have.We cover the way work has changed, and how output in academia has increased but only by men (are you surprised? We weren’t). Having more than one job is normal for most minority groups, including women. Housework and childcare is work, and who does it makes a difference.Work is not just the day job, it’s also the side hustle, the fun job, the extra things we do (like podcasts) - and that impacts our space. Does work become a liminal notion mixing public and private spaces?How much more inclusive have we been able to be? We both have the huge advantage of having work that can be done remotely, and our experience is not universal. Is a commute and an office still desired? Are we building a huge technological divide.Tackling this through a queer, non-normative, lens shows the advantages and disadvantages that impact us all. There is no “normal” office to return to.We have a transcript for this episode -IIC Episode 46 TranscriptOur Patreon - us feedback - we’re on twitter - - we’d love to connect with you about working from home.