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It's Not Just You: Losing Friends After Babies with Secret Mum Club

This week Anna is joined by Emma and Sophiena from Secret Mum Club to answer a listener dilemma on something that's relatable to lots of us: navigating friendships after one of you has a baby. What happens when one friend becomes a mum and their life changes beyond recognition, but the other is following a different path? Can your friendship ever stay the same?


If you have a dilemma or situation you'd like discussed, reach out to Anna by emailing hello@itcantjustbeme.co.uk or DM her on Instagram @itcantjustbemepod


Nothing is off limits, we’re open to it all, from your mental health, to dating, to your sex life to addiction…all of the challenges and hurdles that life throws at you - It's Not Just You is a place for you to find some practical advice and support.

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