I Said What I Said

Loved this season! But I am always glad when it’s all over 😂 On this episode I discuss:Jordan and Megan: is a wealth gap really that insurmountable?Kalybriah and Edmond: infantilizing men and accountabilityMadison and Joe: outsourcing intuition, attachment issues and attracting people at your resonance levelPatrick and Kacie: Naïveté, Boundaries & Self-EsteemAli and Anton: class and hypergamyNick, Kait and Annie: Personas and performativityREFERENCESIf you like hearing me discuss love check out my Love is Blind and Ultimatum episodes:“Love is Blind” Patreon Collection - https://www.patreon.com/collection/1687784 “The Ultimatum” Patreon Collection - https://www.patreon.com/collection/1273805 145. Autistics STAND TF UP!! We have incredible intuition and perceptual skills, it's time to act like it : https://www.patreon.com/posts/145-autistics-tf-135474733?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_link  Join Patreon starting at $1. I’ve capped my earnings: everything above this threshold is donated to Gazans. Here’s where I will be donating, and where you can donate directly:https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1vtMLLOzuc6GpkFySyVtKQOY2j-Vvg0UsChMCFst_WLA/htmlview https://docs.google.com/document/d/1S_EA9f7buyt680AWZIwP0-IFj1qbVFdzT0ZBtGeAVv4/edit?tab=t.0 : This link also has resources to support efforts in DRC, Sudan, Yemen, Haiti, Lebanon, Hawai'iGENERAL LINKSThank you Patrons for your presence! It’s a real joy creating and engaging with you allPatreon: https://www.patreon.com/ISWIS Got questions or comments? Send a VoiceNote! https://www.speakpipe.com/iswisTik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mukundwa.the.mystic Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iswis_podcast and https://www.instagram.com/mukundwa_ Please leave a review on Apple podcasts or a rating on Spotify (click the 3 dots > Rate Show)

So you want to take responsibility for your reality! Great. How do you do this with care, though? In a way that acknowledges your capacity, takes charge of what you can control while accepting what you cannot… Let’s discussssss:Understanding Manifestation and Reality CreationThe Role of Belief Systems in Reality CreationThe Importance of Evidence and Critical ThinkingResponse Over ReactionDetermining Your Belief SystemThe Benefits of Taking ResponsibilityWhen to Be Responsible and When Not ToThe Role of Astrology and Spiritual PhilosophyTaking Responsibility for Relational DynamicsCreating distance to reduce self-criticismShould you take responsibility for external acts of trauma and suffering? My simple Formula Unnecessary SufferingAre you unlucky?Join Patreon starting at $1. I’ve capped my earnings: everything above this threshold is donated to Gazans. Here’s where I will be donating, and where you can donate directly:https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1vtMLLOzuc6GpkFySyVtKQOY2j-Vvg0UsChMCFst_WLA/htmlview https://docs.google.com/document/d/1S_EA9f7buyt680AWZIwP0-IFj1qbVFdzT0ZBtGeAVv4/edit?tab=t.0 : This link also has resources to support efforts in DRC, Sudan, Yemen, Haiti, Lebanon, Hawai'iGENERAL LINKSThank you Patrons for your presence! It’s a real joy creating and engaging with you allPatreon: https://www.patreon.com/ISWIS Got questions or comments? Send a VoiceNote! https://www.speakpipe.com/iswisTik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mukundwa.the.mystic Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iswis_podcast and https://www.instagram.com/mukundwa_ Please leave a review on Apple podcasts or a rating on Spotify (click the 3 dots > Rate Show)

I’m tired!!!! I’m ordering a public flogging of all the men in the town square.Examining Love, Self-Reflection, and Attachment Styles in 'Love Is Blind' Season 9Alcohol dependence and sexual coercion Intuition and Attachent stylesChildhood trauma and breaking relational patternsFilling voids with everything but self loveRESOURCESAffirmations: https://www.patreon.com/posts/154-robotic-in-140900680?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_link Louise Hay on affirmations: https://youtu.be/x0ZZ8xK6PE4?si=dT2Syn2xaARmf05B Check out my Love is Blind and Ultimatum episodes:“Love is Blind” Patreon Collection - https://www.patreon.com/collection/1687784 “The Ultimatum” Patreon Collection - https://www.patreon.com/collection/1273805 Join Patreon starting at $1. Proceeds above a certain threshold from your new membership, upgraded membership and once off purchases will be donated to Gazans. Where I will be donating, and where you can donate directly:https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1vtMLLOzuc6GpkFySyVtKQOY2j-Vvg0UsChMCFst_WLA/htmlview https://docs.google.com/document/d/1S_EA9f7buyt680AWZIwP0-IFj1qbVFdzT0ZBtGeAVv4/edit?tab=t.0 : This link also has resources to support efforts in DRC, Sudan, Yemen, Haiti, Lebanon, Hawai'iGENERAL LINKSThank you Patrons for your presence! It’s a real joy creating and engaging with you allPatreon: https://www.patreon.com/ISWIS Got questions or comments? Send a VoiceNote! https://www.speakpipe.com/iswisTik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mukundwa.the.mystic Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iswis_podcast and https://www.instagram.com/mukundwa_ Please leave a review on Apple podcasts or a rating on Spotify (click the 3 dots > Rate Show)

This season has me HOWLING! My review covers Ep1-5 and 10mins of Ep6 - basically only the pods stuff, nothing beyond. I use the couples as a mirror to discuss larger societal themes around:internalized racismracial preferencesshame and romantic desperation trusting ones intuitionHeteroflexibility and hiding behind faithEmotional repressionIf you like hearing me discuss love check out my Love is Blind and Ultimatum episodes:“Love is Blind” Patreon Collection - https://www.patreon.com/collection/1687784 “The Ultimatum” Patreon Collection - https://www.patreon.com/collection/1273805  Love Is Blind content creators I love: Dr Cheri Types, Jessie Woo (both on YouTube)Intuition episode:https://www.patreon.com/posts/140-listener-how-132018209?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_link Self Esteem episodes:https://www.patreon.com/posts/97-process-of-107234216?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_linkhttps://www.patreon.com/posts/133-lying-is-of-127526214?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_linkJoin Patreon starting at $1. Proceeds above a certain threshold from your new membership, upgraded membership and once off purchases will be donated to Gazans. Where I will be donating, and where you can donate directly:https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1vtMLLOzuc6GpkFySyVtKQOY2j-Vvg0UsChMCFst_WLA/htmlview https://docs.google.com/document/d/1S_EA9f7buyt680AWZIwP0-IFj1qbVFdzT0ZBtGeAVv4/edit?tab=t.0 : This link also has resources to support efforts in DRC, Sudan, Yemen, Haiti, Lebanon, Hawai'iGENERAL LINKSPatreon: https://www.patreon.com/ISWIS Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mukundwa.the.mystic Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iswis_podcast and https://www.instagram.com/mukundwa_ 

Watched it twice! LOVED all the themes, and I LOVE discussing love, so of course I had a blast recording this episode. I discussed:love as industrycapitalism and lovehypergamy and lover girlsthe utility of lovemanifestation, objectification and datingobjectifying love via dating appsoutsourcing community and connectionIf you like hearing me discuss love check out my Love is Blind and Ultimatum episodes:“Love is Blind” Patreon Collection - https://www.patreon.com/collection/1687784 “The Ultimatum” Patreon Collection - https://www.patreon.com/collection/1273805 REFERENCESRealization By Pea post: https://www.instagram.com/p/DPRU39fEXWi/?igsh=MTh1dGpjbThpcWhncw== Celine Song interview clip: https://www.instagram.com/reel/DNJF54WMs3N/?igsh=MXdsc3J1anltOGQ4bQ== The Slumflower on hypergamy: https://youtu.be/DesVgQwPD1s?si=6Bf2bvkjOFuZx6tHJoin Patreon starting at $1. Proceeds above a certain threshold from your new membership, upgraded membership and once off purchases will be donated to Gazans. Where I will be donating, and where you can donate directly:https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1vtMLLOzuc6GpkFySyVtKQOY2j-Vvg0UsChMCFst_WLA/htmlview https://docs.google.com/document/d/1S_EA9f7buyt680AWZIwP0-IFj1qbVFdzT0ZBtGeAVv4/edit?tab=t.0 : This link also has resources to support efforts in DRC, Sudan, Yemen, Haiti, Lebanon, Hawai'iGENERAL LINKSThank you Patrons for your presence! It’s a real joy creating and engaging with you allPatreon: https://www.patreon.com/ISWIS Got questions or comments? Send a VoiceNote! https://www.speakpipe.com/iswisTik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mukundwa.the.mystic Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iswis_podcast and https://www.instagram.com/mukundwa_ Please leave a review on Apple podcasts or a rating on Spotify (click the 3 dots > Rate Show)

That’s a wrap! I loved this season. This is a review of Episodes 10 & 11 (reunion). Themes discussedReality TV and mental healthSarova and Kal: dating down intellectually, ignoring signs, reading aurasBardha and Jed: shocked they aren’t together! owning your triggers and doing shadow workMeghan and Kieran: why lie about Javen and then double down? Suspicioussss otherwise, love these two for each otherJaven and Katisha: gaslighting, nitpicking and low self worthObservations on how men and women’s communication styles differREFERENCESDr Cherie Types, Jed + Bardha - https://youtu.be/IwxOPkuesGY?si=33IOzxSGZl-aEcKO photo analysis woman -https://www.instagram.com/reel/DM_8O4aRcOw/?igsh=MmM5bmJyeWIzOGpm “Love is Blind” Patreon Collection - https://www.patreon.com/collection/1687784 “The Ultimatum” Patreon Collection - https://www.patreon.com/collection/1273805 Join Patreon starting at $1. Proceeds above a certain threshold from your new membership, upgraded membership and once off purchases will be donated to Gazans. Where I will be donating, and where you can donate directly:https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1vtMLLOzuc6GpkFySyVtKQOY2j-Vvg0UsChMCFst_WLA/htmlview https://docs.google.com/document/d/1S_EA9f7buyt680AWZIwP0-IFj1qbVFdzT0ZBtGeAVv4/edit?tab=t.0 : This link also has resources to support efforts in DRC, Sudan, Yemen, Haiti, Lebanon, Hawai'iGENERAL LINKSThank you Patrons for your presence! It’s a real joy creating and engaging with you allPatreon: https://www.patreon.com/ISWIS Got questions or comments? Send a VoiceNote! https://www.speakpipe.com/iswisTik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mukundwa.the.mystic Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iswis_podcast and https://www.instagram.com/mukundwa_ Please leave a review on Apple podcasts or a rating on Spotify (click the 3 dots > Rate Show)

This is a review of Episodes 5-9 up until and not including the weddings. There are no spoilers about the weddings and beyond. Themes discussedthe bro code and men’s allegiance to other men (Kieran and Javen)emotional availability (Javen)(not) being an intellectual match (Kal and Sarover)when your partner doesn’t have your back, being ‘alone’ together (Kieran)provider vs. non provider men (Jed vs. Billy)honesty without tact (Kal)self worth and the lack of it (Sarover and Katisha)gaslighting, semantics and the difference in how men and women communicate (Javen and photoboot-gate)REFERENCESManifesting dream partner (list exercise) - https://youtu.be/-arRiZGavR8?si=v8e5INsFQHk-kATX Join Patreon starting at $1. Proceeds above a certain threshold from your new membership, upgraded membership and once off purchases will be donated to Gazans. Where I will be donating, and where you can donate directly:https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1vtMLLOzuc6GpkFySyVtKQOY2j-Vvg0UsChMCFst_WLA/htmlview https://docs.google.com/document/d/1S_EA9f7buyt680AWZIwP0-IFj1qbVFdzT0ZBtGeAVv4/edit?tab=t.0 : This link also has resources to support efforts in DRC, Sudan, Yemen, Haiti, Lebanon, Hawai'iGENERAL LINKSThank you Patrons for your presence! It’s a real joy creating and engaging with you allPatreon: https://www.patreon.com/ISWIS Got questions or comments? Send a VoiceNote! https://www.speakpipe.com/iswisTik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mukundwa.the.mystic Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iswis_podcast and https://www.instagram.com/mukundwa_ Please leave a review on Apple podcasts or a rating on Spotify (click the 3 dots > Rate Show)

Javen and Patrick, prepare for your SLAPS 👏🏾!!! This is a review of Episodes 1-4 covering the pod only, nothing beyond that. I unpack behaviours, discuss motivations and attachment styles, and consider gender roles and race:Couples analysis - who’s (not) a good fit and whyJaven and gender rolesPatrick and Spiritual bypassing Katisha and low self esteemSophie and attachment stylesbeauty, race and genderREFERENCESBashar on timeline jumping - https://youtu.be/S0ubD4QoUKw?si=J8LAOciA5lTTKHFL attachment style - https://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl Join Patreon starting at $1. Proceeds above a certain threshold from your new membership, upgraded membership and once off purchases will be donated to Gazans. Where I will be donating, and where you can donate directly:https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1vtMLLOzuc6GpkFySyVtKQOY2j-Vvg0UsChMCFst_WLA/htmlview https://docs.google.com/document/d/1S_EA9f7buyt680AWZIwP0-IFj1qbVFdzT0ZBtGeAVv4/edit?tab=t.0 : This link also has resources to support efforts in DRC, Sudan, Yemen, Haiti, Lebanon, Hawai'iGENERAL LINKSThank you Patrons for your presence! It’s a real joy creating and engaging with you allPatreon: https://www.patreon.com/ISWIS Got questions or comments? Send a VoiceNote! https://www.speakpipe.com/iswisTik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mukundwa.the.mystic Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iswis_podcast and https://www.instagram.com/mukundwa_ Please leave a review on Apple podcasts or a rating on Spotify (click the 3 dots > Rate Show)

I love the conversation Laverne’s admission has given rise too. A lot of it is shallow and obvious in its call to action (cancel Laverne) so I’d like to provide a deeper perspective rooted in compassion and consideration. I discuss: Dating Across Political LinesThe Intersection of Politics and DatingHow people relate to their oppressorsThe Challenges Faced by Black Trans WomenHow black folks relate to white folksDating preferences within a white supremacist worldREFERENCESLaverne Cox videoshttps://www.instagram.com/p/DMUEEl4OgkB/ https://www.instagram.com/p/DMYhkucysh0/ https://www.instagram.com/p/DMZLJYguxOY/ Reaction videoshttps://youtu.be/CL7h50X0D1s?si=YDwWcuFHRB3rcc_F Join Patreon starting at $1. Proceeds from your new membership, upgraded membership and once off purchases will be donated to Gazans. Where I will be donating, and where you can donate directly:https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1vtMLLOzuc6GpkFySyVtKQOY2j-Vvg0UsChMCFst_WLA/htmlview https://docs.google.com/document/d/1S_EA9f7buyt680AWZIwP0-IFj1qbVFdzT0ZBtGeAVv4/edit?tab=t.0 : This link also has resources to support efforts in DRC, Sudan, Yemen, Haiti, Lebanon, Hawai'iGENERAL LINKSThank you Patrons for your presence! It’s a real joy creating and engaging with you allPatreon: https://www.patreon.com/ISWIS Got questions or comments? Send a VoiceNote! https://www.speakpipe.com/iswisTik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mukundwa.the.mystic Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iswis_podcast and https://www.instagram.com/mukundwa_ Please leave a review on Apple podcasts or a rating on Spotify (click the 3 dots > Rate Show)