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110: Boundaries! Cultivating a relationship with self, and culling toxicity
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In upcoming episodes I'm going to be building on ideas of embodiment, losing people but/because of gaining self-love, and spiritual awakening. Today's episode lays the groundwork for these themes. I discuss some of my developments in:
- Boundaries with self
- Processing resentment through body work and dreams
- Dream interpretation
- Friendship breakups and self respect
- Proprioception and ignoring the body’s cues
00:00 Welcome and Introduction
00:42 Why there will be “No Love is Blind DC” Reunion *sprinkles Holy Water*
03:45 Housekeeping and Patreon Updates
06:35 Discussing Boundaries
07:48 Exploring Resentment and Self-Reflection
17:06 Breathwork and Body Awareness
23:25 Friendships and Boundaries
29:00 Astrology and Relationships
29:34 The Significance of Dreams
30:40 Psychic Reading and Friendship
33:00 Interpreting Dreams and Emotional Release
38:03 Boundaries and Friendships
42:52 Evolving Friendships and Self-Respect
50:59 Guiding Questions for Self-Reflection
54:58 Final Thoughts and Farewell
In a friendship dilemma? Consider the following:
- Think of the version of you who made this friend, are they someone you would consider trustworthy now? Did they hold standards and boundaries in a way that are useful to you now?
- This friend that you are unsure about, are they respectful or disrespectful?
- Are they comfortable with conflict? Do they leave room for disagreement?
- Are you inspired by them to be a more you version of yourself? What does their presence encourage or discourage in you?
- Are your best traits amplified by them or are your worst traits amplified by them or something in between?
- Who benefits the most from this relationship? Is it equally beneficial?
- What about this friendship lights you up? What about it makes you uncomfortable and uneasy?
- Have you tried setting a boundary and how did they respond?
Sorry if you hear a clicking sound - its my fidget toy oooops
References:
Love is Blind DC Tea: The horrific threesome "parenting" triangle Tyler from Love is Blind, is in - and boldly continues to lie about. For the full expose watch this https://youtu.be/94iP19qo9z8?si=N_vNpvDPXQzQPlyY and then this https://www.youtube.com/live/5eDwrzgidpQ?si=X1r_wSuov0NKZlDd (the interview with the ex wife is about half way in. TW!!). Here’s a brilliant YouTube about black women on dating shows: https://youtu.be/k84_Vj8fvlc?si=pkq_lMPadEHTFZF7
Set Boundaries, Find Peace - Nedra Glover Tawwab
Friendship breakup episode: Ep94
Disassociation and Sex episode: Ep84 + Ep85 (exclusive to Patreon)
Flex Mami: https://www.instagram.com/flex.mami/
Aumji - breathwork teacher: https://www.instagram.com/aumji_kistan/?hl=en
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