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Tony Cantwell: 'Since my ADHD diagnosis I’m a more patient dad’

Having a son and a daughter has given comedian, Tony Cantwell, the opportunity to explore some of life’s big questions. Things like, is gender just a social construct? What’s it like raising children when you're neurodivergent? How do you gentle parent? And how much time spent pooing is deemed acceptable in the quest for me-time? Host, Jen Hogan, sits down with Cantwell who created, and stars in, the new RTE comedy series, Good Boy. He discusses the extreme lengths he’ll go to, to avoid needing to change vomit soaked bedsheets, co sleeping, and how scheduling “the ride” becomes a necessary evil when you’re parenting young children. Cantwell is also open about the difficult early months when he wondered if he had male post-partum depression, and what later became a diagnosis of ADHD.


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