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The Deirdre O'Shaughnessy Podcast
Stepping in or stepping back? Knowing when to take control or help your child develop autonomy
Season 1, Ep. 7
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Child psychotherapist and best-selling author Dr Colman Noctor joins ieParenting editor Irene Feighan to discuss the pitfalls of being too involved in your child's life.
The more children are exposed to failure, disappointment and frustration, the more they learn how to cope with challenging life experiences, says Noctor.
He also speaks about the impact of parental pressure - conscious and unconscious - on children.
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