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Sex, Shame, and Chronic Illness An Interview with Dr. Lee Phillips

Dr Lee Phillips

Like any discussion about sex there are some hot button issues. In this episode Dr. Phillips and I are circling around what we got the most emails about, shame. When sex comes up in many cultures shame seems to peek around the shadows for everyone but when one is disables or is living with a chronic condition shame can become pretty bold. This can take shape in changing romantic relationships, new ways to reimagine sex with physical limitations, and even the question of when to bring up disability or chronic conditions with new romantic partners. Please take a listen to our new mostly monthly segment about sex, disability, & chronic illness with Dr. Lee Phillips.

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Trigger Warnings: We do cover sexual identity, shame, sexual assault, sex work, and depression.

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