Inner Skilled

(Ai assist:) In this conversation, Richard Tierney, a trauma recovery coach, discusses the importance of understanding trauma and mental health in children. He emphasizes that feelings and emotions should not be labeled as disorders but rather recognized as natural instincts. Richard shares his personal journey, insights on parenting, the role of spirituality in healing, and the need for supportive environments for children. He warns against the dangers of medicalizing mental health and advocates for teaching children to trust their instincts and express their feelings. The conversation highlights the importance of community, connection, and the responsibility of adults to nurture the emotional well-being of the next generation.0:00 – Introduction: Meet Trauma Recovery Coach Richard Tierney0:14 – Why Diagnosing Kids with Mental Disorders Is a Crime Against Humanity1:00 – Fight, Flight, Freeze: Your God-Given Instincts Are NOT Disorders2:50 – Teaching Children It’s Okay to Run, Hide, or Shut Down3:20 – The Impact of Parenting on Children’s Mental Health5:50 – Richard’s Personal Journey: Feeling Broken in a Loving Family8:53 – How Birth Experiences Shape Your Natural Stress Response11:57 – The Missing Fourth Response: Faith and the Role of Spirituality15:09 – Why Modern Mental Health Ignores the Soul and Healing the Past17:48 – Trust Your Instincts: It’s Okay to Hide in the Closet19:38 – The Global Mental Health Crisis: 290 Million Children at Risk20:46 – Practical Family Exercise: Practice Fight, Flight, Freeze & Faith Together23:11 – Removing God from Schools and Homes: The Biggest Mistake25:19 – The Power of a Simple Nightly Prayer Ritual for Peaceful Sleep30:41 – Lost Family Traditions and the Decline of Sunday as Family Day31:52 – Cultural Shifts: How Society Degraded the Family Unit35:40 – Bringing Instinct Training into Classrooms: A Teacher’s Role38:03 – Why Dissociation Is a Healthy Response, Not a Disorder43:13 – Adult Trauma vs. Childhood Responses: The Medication Trap46:43 – Richard’s Terrifying Experience Coming Off Psychiatric Medication51:08 – Asking God for Miracles: One Day (or One Hour) at a Time54:18 – Final Message to Parents: Protect Your Children, Teach Them to Speak Up58:00 – Richard’s Programs & How to Work With Him59:31 – Closing Thoughts: Look After the Children – They Are Our FutureReach him at richard@traumarecoveryanonymous.comBooks:trauma recovery anonymous: second edition https://www.amazon.com.au/trauma-recovery-second-richard-tierney-ebook/dp/B0DPM5N1FN/How To Live Stress & Anxiety Free, 24 Hours a Day https://www.amazon.fr/-/en/richard-tierney-ebook/dp/B0DNGLW129Takeaways:Children diagnosed with mental disorders are often misunderstood.Feelings and emotions are not disorders; they are instincts.Teaching children to express their feelings is crucial.Spirituality plays a significant role in healing.Coping mechanisms should be taught to children.The medicalization of mental health can be harmful.Parents must create a supportive environment for their children.Children need to learn to trust their instincts.Community and connection are vital for emotional well-being.We must prioritize the mental health of future generations.

Arizona-based LPCs Helene Zupanc and Beth Valdez talk their collaborative passion project: using "sticky note mantras" — short, personalized, humorous, or values-based phrases (drawn from CBT, ACT, songs, quotes, movies, and client creativity) — to interrupt negative thought loops, rewire neural pathways, and foster healthier thinking. They share personal stories: Helene's childhood OCD and early mantra use with her mom; Beth's inattentive ADHD and habit of collecting uplifting quotes/slogans for momentum. Key discussions cover why traditional affirmations often feel inauthentic (leading to toxic positivity or cognitive dissonance), the power of reframing (e.g., "This is my now, not my forever," "People are going to people," "This is survivable"), impermanence ("This too shall pass," urge surfing waves of emotion), not believing every thought (brain lies/shame-free negativity bias), humor/cognitive diffusion, body check-ins, and creating mantras that stick (personal ownership → generic positivity). We also get into meeting people where they are, handling naysayers/resistance, avoiding unsolicited advice, and building therapeutic alliance. The episode blends science (neural pathways, confirmation bias, negative bias), ancient wisdom (e.g., Buddhist impermanence, Rumi influences implied), and practical tools like playlists, sticky notes, and client-generated phrases.0:00 - Intro & Guest Welcome0:17 - Who Are Helene & Beth? Licensed Counselors & Mantra Mission1:20 - Backstory: OCD, ADHD & Early Mantra Use2:39 - CBT + ACT + Humor: Interrupting Thought Loops3:48 - Why Traditional Affirmations Fail; Permission-Based & Neutral Mantras5:16 - Beth's Quote-Collecting & Nike Inspiration for Momentum6:24 - Sticky Notes as Portable Cues; Client Co-Creation for Stickiness9:00 - Power of Language & Resonance; Paradigm Shifts When Ready10:21 - Ancient Wisdom Reimagined: Acceptance, Letting Go, Compassion11:23 - Authenticity Over Faking It: Aspirations vs. Forced Positivity13:35 - "Do Your Best" & Assuming Positive Intent15:16 - Mantra Examples: "This Is My Now, Not My Forever," "People Are Going to People"16:41 - Focus Determines Reality: Confirmation Bias & Gratitude Ties18:53 - Visual Mantras: Urge Surfing Waves of Emotion (ACT)19:57 - Your Brain Lies — Don't Believe Every Thought20:56 - Daily Check-Ins: Body Awareness & Redirecting Needs21:19 - Songs & Playlists as Powerful Mood Tools22:24 - Mantras for Parents, Boundaries & More Future Ideas24:26 - Handling Naysayers & Resistance in Therapy26:19 - Repetition & Evolution: Mantras Change Over Time27:03 - Unsolicited Advice Pitfalls & Building Rapport29:16 - Book, Website & How to Connect30:38 - Closing Blessings & FarewellKey Takeaways:-Thoughts aren't facts — question them; your brain lies without shame (negative bias as survival).-Mantras work best when personal, authentic, and flexible (e.g., "I'm open to moments of peace" vs. forced "I am peaceful").-Reframing shifts focus: What you focus on, you find (confirmation bias); reframe negatives positively (e.g., "People are going to people" for letting go).-Tools include humor, songs (e.g., "Float On" by Modest Mouse), visuals (urge surfing), sticky notes for reinforcement, and client co-creation.-Impermanence helps: "This is my now, not my forever"; ride emotional waves instead of drowning in them.-Authenticity over toxic positivity; do your best (varies daily); compassion even for lacking compassion.-Practical: Check body/feelings daily; use playlists for mood shifts; avoid "don't" phrasing (brain ignores negatives)https://www.amazon.com/Sticky-Note-Mantras-Choosing-Thoughts/dp/B0D2LV2797https://stickynotemantras.comhttps://www.facebook.com/stickynotemantrasbookhttps://instagram.com/stickynotemantrashttps://www.linkedin.com/in/helenezupanchttps://www.tiktok.com/@stickynotemantras6

Daniel Anderson shares his journey from childhood bullying, self-doubt, toxic relationships, job loss, homelessness, and a near-suicide attempt to spiritual awakening, mediumship, and becoming a coach for empaths and highly sensitive people. Daniel shares his early clairvoyant experiences in a haunted house, paranormal investigations that reopened his gifts, a profound divine intervention during despair, and how forgiveness, energy protection, and root-cause healing (inherited survival patterns/"spells") transformed his life. Key themes include overcoming the "inner a-hole" (negative self-talk), the role of dark nights of the soul, pendulum divination for spirit communication and crossing over stuck souls, discernment against deceptive energies, the power of love and forgiveness, and helping others unlearn limiting beliefs to live authentically.0:00 - Intro & Weather Chat0:52 - Who is Daniel Anderson? Integrity, Truth & Late Awakening2:38 - The "Inner A-Hole": Self-Doubt, Bullying & Feeling Different4:23 - Associating with Fools vs. Solitude (Buddhist Wisdom)6:39 - Mistakes, Toxic Relationships & Rock Bottom9:55 - Near-Suicide & Divine Intervention: The Turning Point12:39 - Energetic Shift: Hurricane of Darkness to Sunlight13:39 - Paranormal Hobby Reopens Gifts (Clairvoyance as a Child)21:26 - Haunted Childhood Home: Shadow Pants, Attic Figure & Suicide Connection25:19 - Family Experiences & Physical Poltergeist Activity28:45 - Transition from Paranormal Investigations to Mediumship30:33 - Ashmore Estates & Being Shoved by Spirit35:00 - Pendulum Divination: Communicating with Guides, Angels & Stuck Souls39:53 - Focus: Helping Empaths & Highly Sensitive People Heal40:33 - Root Causes: Inherited Survival Patterns & "Spells"42:56 - Ethics, Karma & Amplified Consequences on the Path44:31 - Forgiveness as Key to Reformation & Crossing Souls50:17 - Lack of Forgiveness = Lower Vibrations; Love Wins57:02 - Discernment with Spirits: Tricksters, Energy Checks & Responding with Love1:01:26 - How Pendulums Work: Yes/No/I Don't Know & Protection Rituals1:07:37 - Core Work: Inner Truth → Outer Satisfaction & Healing Inner Children1:09:21 - Rumi & Wayne Dyer Wisdom; How to Connect with Daniel1:10:00 - Closing Blessings & FarewellGuest BioDaniel Anderson is a spiritual guide, alignment coach, medium, empath, and highly sensitive person focused on helping intuitive/empathic individuals heal trauma, protect energy, and align with their true purpose. Author of Everything I Had to Unlearn to Find Myself: A grounded guide to healing, identity, and spiritual growth https://www.amazon.com/Everything-Had-Unlearn-Find-Myself/dp/B0G522SHW9 https://coachdanielanderson.com Email: daniel@coachdanielanderson.comKey Takeaways:-Integrity and truth-seeking were foundational even before awakening.-Dark nights of the soul build appreciation for light and ego death; newer generations may navigate them more easily due to pattern-breakers.-Paranormal experiences (haunted childhood home, full-body apparitions, physical shoves) led to mediumship via pendulum and divination boards.-Forgiveness (self and others) frees stuck souls and releases personal burdens; it's not excusing harm but dropping grudges that manifest as illness.-Discernment with spirits: Use energy/vibration checks (pendulum trembling for low-vibe entities); respond to negativity with love to shift or dissolve it.-Core limiting "survival patterns": Not safe to be, to be me, to desire, to act on desires.-Purpose: Help empaths/highly sensitive people heal inner child wounds, protect energy, and find inner truth for outer satisfaction."I am more than the sum of my parts.""We are all extensions of source.""Forgiveness is the key to all healing."