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EP63. Ryushin Marchaj | Zen Buddhist Perspective on Existence, Death, and Impermanence
I interview my friend and teacher, Zen Buddhist priest Ryushin Marchaj, about how to live when you know you will die. We explore death, reincarnation, impermanence, and the existential pain—and beauty—of being human, through the lens of Zen Buddhism.
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Rev. Konrad Ryushin Marchaj, is a Zen priest in the tradition of Zen Buddhism, and a dharma heir of the late John Daido Loori, Roshi. Ryushin Sensei was the abbot of Zen Mountain Monastery in the Catskill Mountains of New York. Born in Warsaw, Poland, he immigrated to the United States in 1967. He received a Bachelor of Arts degree in Anthropology from Yale University in 1976, and his medical degree from Albany Medical College in 1980. He worked first as a pediatrician in Portland, Maine, later serving in the US Navy as a physician for three years. He then returned to Albany for postgraduate training in psychiatry. After completing his residency, he served as medical director for a community psychiatric outreach program, the Mobile Crisis Team, which served Albany County’s disenfranchised and homeless population. He entered full-time residential training at the Monastery in 1992. In addition to his roles as the Monastery’s abbot and director of operations, he explored contemplative practices in higher education, collaborating with several liberal arts educators and administrators in the Northeast to look at ways for college students to engage religious practice as part of their education. He has been practicing Buddhism since 1983. Since 2014, he has been rigorously exploring and training in ayahuasca ceremonies in various traditions, guided by several teachers. Drawing on his background as a physician and psychiatrist, Ryushin’s infectious interest and thorough training in the workings of the mind and compassionate expression of unconditional love, combined with his skill at translating complex concepts into the accessible, everyday language, characterize his unique teaching style. Currently, he resides and guides at River Refuge Zen Temple in Roxbury, Connecticut.
Contact: Ryushin Marchaj at 845-282-4278 or fusanryushin@gmail.com
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TIMESTAMPS
00:00 Zen Buddhism on Death and Dying
01:45 Childhood Fascination with Death
04:00 Buddhist Teachings on Death and the Ego
08:00 How to Die Peacefully: Lessons from Zen
09:00 What Is the Ego? The Illusion of Self
12:00 Loneliness, Isolation, and the Human Condition
15:00 Spiritual Materialism and the Spiritual Ego
17:00 Mortality, Meaning, and the Urgency of Life
20:00 Ayahuasca, Consciousness, and Facing Death
24:00 Zen Lineage, Dharma Transmission, and Awakening
25:30 Watching a Zen Master Die
29:00 Love, Vulnerability, and Letting Go
33:00 Death, Love, and Human Connection
34:00 Reincarnation in Zen Buddhism
39:00 The Wheel of Samsara Explained
41:00 Consciousness, Rebirth, and the Afterlife
43:00 The Nature of Consciousness and Reality
47:00 Impermanence, Grief, and Loss
49:00 What Death Teaches Us About Love
50:00 Meditation, Surrender, and Preparing for Death
52:00 Nirvana, Enlightenment, and the Wisdom of No Escape
55:00 Nonduality, Oneness, and Buddhist Philosophy
57:00 How to Cope with Fear of Death
58:00 Final Wisdom: Receive Some Love Today
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58. EP58. Dr. Kayleigh Hale | Neuropsych Testing: What it is and how it can help
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57. EP57. Mark Matousek | Emerson, The Stoics, & Me: Timeless Wisdom for Living an Authentic Life
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56. EP56. Dr. David Wen | Fatherhood & Mental Health, Becoming the Father You Want to Be
41:29||Season 1, Ep. 56I was raised by a single father, so I’ve always had a deep respect for how difficult and essential good fathering is. In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. David Wen, a clinical psychologist specializing in parents, children, and families. We talk about why anger is often the first challenge for fathers, and the tension between what you received growing up and the kind of father you want to be. We explore how small moments with your child can make a lasting difference. We also talk about self-care, emotional regulation, and simple in-the-moment tools when things escalate, along with the pressure many fathers carry as providers and how it impacts their capacity to show up at home.***Dr. David Wen is a licensed clinical psychologist at Hope+Wellness who specializes in working with children, parents, and fathers. He brings clinical expertise and lived experience to his work, supporting dads and parents in showing up in ways that feel meaningful, even in the face of real-world parenting challenges.His approach is grounded in evidence-based therapy and delivered with a style that is warm, direct, and attuned to both parents and children. Learn more: https://www.hope-wellness.com/david-wen-psyd**00:00 Inner calling: from engineer to psychologist02:00 Absent father, immigrant family, raised by four women05:00 How do you give what you never received?07:00 Inherited temper and breaking the cycle09:00 How becoming a psychologist taught him to parent10:00 Working with fathers: anger is the first thing to address11:00 Parenting is a skill — not just instinct13:00 Inherent love vs. learned nurturing26:00 Is it healthy for men to express anger?28:00 Dr. Victoria's story: raised by a stressed single father30:00 Self-care isn't selfish — quality over quantity34:00 In-the-moment coping skills: deep breaths, walk away, be random36:00 Kids don't break — but parents do38:00 Special time: five minutes of focused attention changes everything40:00 Join their world — get to know your kid43:00 Fatherhood and intuition — starting antidepressants as self-awareness50:00 Capacity, coping skills, and the weight fathers carry51:00 The provider pressure — learning to be the plus one52:00 Advice for new dads: get your temper in check first54:00 Your values as a North Star for parenting55:00 Encouragement for dads feeling ashamed or disconnected56:00 First steps when you feel distant from your child57:00 When the child feels wronged: how to still reach out59:00 How therapy helps fathers — being seen and supported01:01:00 Book rec: 1-2-3 Magic***CONNECT WITH DR. VICTORIA Podcast Website: www.innercalling.orgDr .Victoria: www.victoriaranade.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drvictoriaranadeHope+Wellness, boutique mental health care that's kind, compassionate, and evidence-based. A place where you are genuinely seen & understood. Founded by Dr. Victoria: https://www.hope-wellness.com* * * *WHAT IS INNERCALLING?innercalling is a podcast hosted by Dr. Victoria Ranade, PhD, MBA, ABPP that brings together leaders, scientists, clinicians, authors, artists, and everyday people to explore what it means to stay grounded in inner wisdom, creativity, purpose, and our shared humanity during rapidly changing times. Inspired by the tradition of clinical psychology, each episode is a conversation that honors the human spirit and the extraordinary capacity for growth and resilience that lives within each of us.WHO IS DR. VICTORIA? Hi there, I'm Dr. Victoria Ranade. I'm a board certified licensed clinical psychologist, writer, and podcaster deeply passionate about mental health, spirituality, integrative wellness, and honoring the light inside you — the one that no darkness can ever overcome. Fun fact: You're one of my greatest inspirations. I made this podcast so you would know you're not alone.✌🏼💛I LOVE HEARING FROM YOU. SEND ME ANY MAIL OR QUESTIONS HERE:info@innercalling.org #parenting #adhd #adhdawareness #parentingtips #parentingjourney #fatherhood #fatherhoodjourney
55. EP55. Nick Sholley MSW | A Life in Theater | CAREERSTORY
01:10:22||Season 1, Ep. 55I interview my friend, therapist and actor Nick Sholley, MSW, about his career in theater - what it was like and advice for any young people who are interested. We also talk about the craft of acting and his advice to follow what feels most alive to you in the moment.***Nick Sholley is an actor and licensed therapist.https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/peter-n-sholley-mft-great-barrington-ma/84815***LISTEN / SUBSCRIBE TO THE PODCASTApple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/innercalling/id1809177408Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4K2khwqNKgs90Hs8vrQenZ?si=ad3d2dbeceab49c4***CONNECT WITH DR. VICTORIAPodcast Website: www.innercalling.orgDr .Victoria: www.victoriaranade.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drvictoriaranadeHope+Wellness, boutique mental health care that's kind, compassionate, and evidence-based. A place where you are genuinely seen & understood. Founded by Dr. Victoria: https://www.hope-wellness.com* * * *WHAT IS INNERCALLING?innercalling is a podcast hosted by Dr. Victoria Ranade, PhD, MBA, ABPP that brings together leaders, scientists, clinicians, authors, artists, and everyday people to explore what it means to stay grounded in inner wisdom, creativity, purpose, and our shared humanity during rapidly changing times. Inspired by the tradition of clinical psychology, each episode is a conversation that honors the human spirit and the extraordinary capacity for growth and resilience that lives within each of us.WHO IS DR. VICTORIA?Hi there, I'm Dr. Victoria Ranade. I'm a board certified licensed clinical psychologist, writer, and podcaster deeply passionate about mental health, spirituality, integrative wellness, and honoring the light inside you — the one that no darkness can ever overcome. Fun fact: You're one of my greatest inspirations. I made this podcast so you would know you're not alone.✌🏼💛I LOVE HEARING FROM YOU. SEND ME ANY MAIL OR QUESTIONS HERE:info@innercalling.org1069 W Broad StSTE 804Falls Church, VA 22046