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In All Honesty

Happiness Is Not A Goal

Season 4, Ep. 6

Do you want to feel happier in life?

Do you worry that others have a happier life than you do?

Do you feel guilty if you don't feel grateful?


Then this episode is for you.


In this episode, Michelle talks about happiness and why believing we deserve to be happy can have a downside. She talks about how the pressure to be happy can actually mean you ignore other emotions and why we need to allow ourselves access to all emotions. She discusses how toxic positivity can have a negative impact and why telling people they should be happy doesn't work.


For more information, follow Michelle at @MichelleLElman on Instagram, Twitter and TikTok

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