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It Must Be Election Grief
Episode Transcript (provided by Riverside - forgive any errors)
In this episode, I reflect on the emotional aftermath of the recent elections in the United States. I acknowledge the real and healthy grief many of us are experiencing. I spoke off the cuff and without any notes or quotes or prepared thoughts, just my heart. I give the briefest glimpse into why this goes much deeper than whether "my team won". I also mention how it caused me to further reflect on the grief from deaths, divorce and more in the past year or so. I emphasize why and how we should process grief as a natural part of love and connection. Whether or not you listen to the episode, I urge you to seek community and not face this journey in isolation.
Key Takeaways:
- Today has been tough for many, especially marginalized communities.
- The US political system is often inhumane and unjust.
- Grief is a natural response to love and loss.
- Processing grief is essential for mental health.
- Community support is crucial during difficult times.
- It's important to make peace with our attachments.
- Isolation can exacerbate feelings of grief and despair.
- Finding community can help in navigating grief and identity.
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- Community for Black Gifted Adults - Our Wild Minds - Use code "Sheldon"
- Dr. Mick - Licensed Therapist who shares knowledge while gaming
- Umbrella US - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacy
- Bloomers Gifted and 2E Facebook Group
- Neurodivergent Sanctuary Facebook Group
- Submit your Questions or Misunderstood Insights
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