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S1, Ep10 - The Grief Philanthropist, Dr Shelley Gilbert - From Tragedy to Changing Thousands of Lives
TRIGGER WARNING - This episode discusses death and grief in detail.
This episode is unlike any other. If you want to hear what a life dedicated to impacting the lives of people sounds like in an interview, listen to Dr Shelley Gilbert. I came away totally shell shocked with how passionate one person can be about a cause so close to them - and how such a tragedy early on could be turned into a life mission that has touched the lives of hundreds and thousands of people in a way that they will never forgot. Shelley's story, narrative and focus is all consuming, yet the clear fulfillment she has for what she does despite the hard work that goes in every day, is nothing short of profound.
Dr Shelley Gilbert, MBE. Shelley is a leading child and young person bereavement counselor and had dedicated her life to the cause. Originally training as a a psychotherapist and specializing in bereavement working for numerous charitable organisations. In 2004 she founded what is now the leading UK Child bereavement charity - Grief Encounter - and currently holds the role as Trustee and Lifetime President. Why? You might ask, would someone be so passionate and determined to provide a safe space and early support to children going through bereavement, well Shelley sadly has first hand experience of this, having lost both of her parents by just 9 years old. Her work has seen her gain some incredible accolades from The Daily Mail Inspirational Woman of the Year Award to an MBE as a recognition of her 20 years of work helping bereaved children. She is a renowned speaker and author on the subject with regular TV and radio appearances, a TEDX Talk and a best selling workbook about Grief to her name.Despite all of this, Shelley also manages to be a wonderful wife and mother to her 4 grown up children and now grandmother to quite a few.
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