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HEALING 101: When a Marriage Slowly Fades (And How to Find Yourself Again) with Oona Metz

In this Healing 101 episode, I am joined by Oona Metz to explore the agonizing "slow fade" of a marriage and why it so rarely ends in a single moment. We discuss the physical toll of chronic disconnection - from autoimmune issues to nervous system burnout - and the "denial" that keeps many trapped in the hope of a better tomorrow. Oona offers vital insights on the difference between a marriage that needs repair and one that is defined by abuse, reminding us that you should never have to "light yourself on fire to keep someone else warm." Whether you are contemplating a split or struggling with the shame of initiating one, this conversation is a compassionate guide to reclaiming your self-worth.


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