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James Haskell on ADHD, Identity, and Life After Rugby

Today, I’m joined by former England rugby player, best-selling author, podcaster and media personality, James Haskell. Known for his larger-than-life presence both on and off the field, James has been on a journey of self-discovery, navigating the highs and lows of professional sport, dealing with ADHD, and embracing new challenges after retiring from rugby.


In this conversation, James opens up about his childhood, how his ADHD diagnosis shaped his early years, and the impact of professional rugby on his mental and physical well-being. We explore his experience with therapy, the lessons he’s learned about self-discipline and confidence, and how he continues to push himself beyond his comfort zone—whether that’s in fitness, music, or public speaking. This episode is an honest and inspiring look at the importance of self-acceptance, and how we can all keep evolving, no matter what life throws our way.


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Instagram: @jameshaskell

Website: https://jameshaskell.co.uk/

Podcasts: https://jameshaskell.co.uk/podcast/


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