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319. CONFRONTING MY ABUSER: The Fight To Hold A Perpetrator Accountable

Season 8

Very few of us ever get the chance to read a Victim Impact Statement for the trauma we endured in childhood. But Diane did. Frustrated by the lack of understanding and terrifying statistics surrounding childhood sexual abuse, Diane made the courageous decision to go to the police and hold her abuser accountable. It’s a choice that comes with immense difficulty, as the path to justice is long and, as Diane shares with us, often skewed against the victim. Diane first shared her story on this podcast in 2022. Now, she returns to update us on her two-year fight for justice. To hear Diane’s original story go to episode 86. Shame and Child Sexual Abuse https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/86-shame-and-child-sexual-abuse-part-one/id1533741808?i=1000577694507 


Key Takeaways:


  1. Why it was important for Diane to hold her abuser accountable.
  2. Should you confront your abuser? Diane shares her perspective.
  3. The challenges of holding an abuser accountable.
  4. Freedom, courage, perseverance, and the journey to move forward.
  5. The importance of having a strong support system.


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Trauma, Healing Childhood Trauma, CSA, Survivor stories.



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