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369. Living Between Two Worlds - Contemplation, Stages of Change Mini Series
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The Stages of Change Mini SeriesUnderstanding the Contemplation Stage of Change
In today’s episode we continue our series exploring the Stages of Change model developed by James Prochaska and Carlo DiClemente.
This episode explores the contemplation stage, the stage where awareness has begun, but change has not yet fully happened.
The part of us that wants change… and the part that is still afraid of it.
In this episode we explore:
- Why awareness and action are not the same thing
- The emotional exhaustion of living between two worlds
- Why people stay stuck in patterns they know are hurting them
- The hidden benefits behaviours can still provide
- Fear, identity, belonging, and nervous system safety
- Why familiar pain can feel safer than uncertainty
- The grief that can come with change
- Supporting someone who is in contemplation without pushing or shaming them
We also talk about how contemplation is often a deeply vulnerable stage because once awareness begins, it becomes difficult to fully “unsee” the impact of our behaviours.
This episode is an invitation to meet inner conflict with honesty instead of judgement, and to understand that questioning a behaviour is already movement.
Journal prompts or reflection:
What behaviour or pattern am I currently questioning in my life?
What do I fear I might lose if I change?
What is this behaviour helping me avoid, numb, regulate, or cope with?
How can I best support my nervous system through this?
For more resources such as coaching or to join the next HIQA challenge go to
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Music for Podcast intro and outro written by Danni Carr performed by Mr Cassidy
If you are struggling with physical dependancy on alcohol consider contacting a local AA meeting or a drug and alcohol therapist. Always consult a GP before stopping alcohol.
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