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Esther Ghey: The Gratitude List

Ep. 36

In this week’s bonus episode, campaigner Esther Ghey shares what she is grateful for. John and Esther reflect on silent retreats, time with friends, morning walks and the tulips in Postman’s Park, as well as the work of the Brianna Ghey Legacy project team. 


Head to the main episode to hear Esther speak about how her own past has shaped her capacity for compassion, and how mindfulness became a lifeline in the aftermath of her daughter’s death.


Esther’s book Under a Pink Sky is available now. 


You can find out more about Esther’s campaigning work via Phone Free Education and Brianna Ghey Legacy Project


If you need support, you can find advice and someone to talk to by visiting Mind or Samaritans.


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