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I Love My Husband, But I Don't Want To Have Sex With Him... What's Wrong With Me?

Season 2, Ep. 4

Parenthood can be magical, but let’s face it: it's not great for your sex life. When you’re sleep-deprived, breastfeeding, and feeling self-conscious about your postpartum body, the idea of intimacy with your partner might feel impossible—maybe even repellent.


This week’s listener question comes from a mom of two struggling with the “ick” when her husband initiates physical touch. She loves him deeply but feels overwhelmed and unsure how to reconnect. Sound familiar? You’re not alone. In this episode, I break down why this happens (hint: it’s not just hormones) and share practical steps to navigate this tricky season.


We’ll cover:

  • The science behind postpartum hormones and their impact on desire.
  • Why the “ick” is more about exhaustion and emotional overwhelm than love.
  • How to shift from avoidance to connection, even when sex feels off the table.


This isn’t about quick fixes or guilt-tripping—it’s about creating a partnership where both of you feel seen, valued, and wanted.


Take a deep breath, mama. There’s hope, and it starts with small, intentional steps.


Want the FREE GUIDE to rekindling desire? Click here


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Disclaimer: while this podcast sounds like therapy, it is not actually therapy nor is it a substitute for therapy, and while I am a therapist, I am not YOUR therapist. Please be entertained and encouraged, and seek appropriate mental health support from a licensed therapist in your community, if necessary.

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