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49. This One Skill Can Make or Break Your Relationships

Season 1, Ep. 49

If we had to pick one skill that is vital to the health and longevity of our relationships - with spouses, kids, friends, and the world at large - it would be apologizing well. But, if we’re being honest? Many of us really suck at doing this when it counts! Today, we dive into the art of saying “I’m sorry,” - why it’s so dang hard to do, how to do it well, and even when and if we should accept an apology.

Listen to learn more about:

  • How we learned to apologize
  • How our relationship history with someone can make it impossible to apologize to them
  • How shame and guilt show up in apologies
  • Why saying "I'm sorry" can feel - and be - so vulnerable
  • The most common kinds of bad apologies
  • How to apologize like a pro
  • Why you truly have to feel remorse to deliver a good apology


Plus, Jess shares a truly painful story of a good apology gone bad; Andrea reveals a pet peeve; and we discuss how we got REALLLL tan for you guys cause WE'RE ON YOUTUBE THIS WEEK!

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Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it’s all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world.

Disclaimer:

Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world.

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