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Hear You Me - Listening to Connect with Colin Smith

Season 2, Ep. 8

How does listening affect a speaker’s quality of thinking?

Why is it not a leadership skill we prioritise?

What is the impact of interruption?  


Highly Relational

Season 2 - Episode 8

Hear You Me - Listening to Connect

with Colin Smith


Colin Smith is known as ‘The Listener’ and has coached organisations like Biffa, BNP Paribas and the Department of Health to understand and embrace the difference between hearing and listening. 

Colin is here to tell us how the art of listening allows teams, leaders and individuals to improve the quality of their thinking and build better relationships.


Everyone can ‘do’ listening but how do we ‘be’ the listener? Press play to find out!


Topics Covered:

  • Difference between hearing and listening 
  • Difference between doing and being listening 
  • Benefits of listening in this way
  • Impact listening has on the speaker’s quality of thinking 
  • Listening as a leadership skill 
  • The value of attention over advice 
  • The importance of silence
  • Interruption
  • COVID, zoom, technology and listening 
  • The ‘Golden Minute’ 

 

Honourable Mentions:

  • Celeste Headlee, Ted Talk - YouTube
  • Tattooist of Auschwitz by Heather Morris, Amazon
  • Time to Think: Listening to Ignite the Human Mind by Nancy Kline, Amazon

 

Colin Smith:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/colindsmith1/

https://dexteritysolutions.co.uk

 

Robert Digings:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/robertdigings/

 

Team Development Consultant and Executive Coach

Robert has been working with teams and their challenges for over 20 years. 

He has discovered that the biggest improvements come when a team has the courage to do the challenging work of developing deep personal connections and a real sense of belonging.

 

In this new business podcast Robert explores the insights, experience and advice from other experts in the field of human collaboration, be they leaders, authors, coaches or consultants.

 

Production credits:

Studio Manager at Voxpod Studios - Alex Bennett

Post Production - Shaun Lawson

Series Producer - Ella Halsall

 

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