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Break Ups & Boundaries in Friendships & Romantic Relationships with Michelle Elman

Season 1, Ep. 40

In this episode Jayda and Michelle talk all things dating and break ups, both romantic and platonic! Michelle delves into her journey of setting boundaries, overcoming people-pleasing tendencies, and offers practical advice to our listeners on how to assert oneself in relationships and friendships. The conversation transitions into her personal experiences with breakups, particularly dealing with the aftermath of a recent infidelity, and the importance of maintaining clear communication and self-respect in such times as a form of self care and way to personally practice hope. Jayda and Michelle also talk about the often-overlooked complexities of friendship dynamics and the significance of handling friendship breakups with the same respect we afford romantic relationships. Listen in for a compelling discussion on hope, resilience, and the nuanced human connections that shape our lives.


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Life coach, author and public speaker, Michelle Elman is also known as the “Queen of Boundaries”. Michelle is known for her candid and straight-talking approach to dating and self-love, and her four best-selling books, Am I Ugly, The Joy Of Being Selfish, The Selfish Romantic and How To Say No, and is also the host of one of the Top 3 Education podcasts in the UK, In All Honesty. Michelle has garnered a following grateful for her earnest sharing on living through illness, surgery, navigating body shaming, building self love, dating and most recently break ups. Michelle has been a media life coach on ITV’s This Morning and BBC3 documentaries, as well as for celebrities like Emily Atack on W Channel.

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