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Why We Pull Away When Someone Treats Us Right

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Have you ever wondered why you push people away just when they start treating you well? In this episode, Jordan Murphy explores the deep psychological and physiological reasons behind this common pattern. From trauma and abuse to attachment styles and self-worth struggles, we break down why your body and brain might be wired to protect you- even from love. Learn practical strategies to recognize these patterns, build trust, and embrace healthy relationships without fear.


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