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How to Stop Misplacing People (And Why It Keeps Hurting You)
Season 3, Ep. 15
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In today’s season finale, we’re talking about one of the most important relationship lessons you’ll ever learn as an adult: the difference between friendship and community — and how misplacing people can lead to disappointment, burnout, and emotional exhaustion.
If you’ve ever asked yourself why your relationships feel heavy… why your circle is small… or why you keep getting hurt by people who were never actually your friends, this episode is for you.
We dive into:
• how to stop misplacing people in your life
• the REAL difference between friendship and community
• why your small circle doesn’t mean something is wrong with you
• how to recognize who’s truly for you
• understanding your emotional capacity and relationship needs
• what healthy adult friendships actually look like
• how to build community without forcing intimacy
• why accountability is a major part of grown-woman friendship
• how this year shifted my view on relationships, support, and connection
This episode will help you protect your peace, create healthier boundaries, and step into 2026 with clarity about who belongs where in your life.
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