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8. Episode 8: Advice is a Way we Love Each Other, with Brandy Jensen
59:42||Season 1, Ep. 8Welcome to HEART REACTS, an advice podcast for all of us trying to remain emotionally functional through the collapse of late capitalism. We are back and we have a special guest with us! This week, in lieu of giving YOU advice, we asked one of our favorite advice-givers, Brandy Jensen, writer, editor, and "Ask a Fuck-Up" columnist, to talk to us about the whole business of advising strangers. We discuss being a romantic in 2024, how to tell when you're in love, the current media fascination with polyamory, and some of Emma Goldman's best takes.Stuff we mention in this episode:Brandy Jensen on Twitter and her Substack advice column.Brandy at the Yale Review: The PolycrisisEmma Goldman, Jealousy: Causes and a Possible CureEmma Goldman, Marriage and LoveToni Morrison, JazzBefore SunsetWe are Craig Gent, a writer and researcher living in Leeds, and Sarah Jaffe, a journalist and author based in New Orleans.You can send us your questions at www.askmeanything.cc/heartreacts. This episode was produced by, well, us! We apologize for any inconsistencies in audio quality. If you liked it and want to help keep us going, and help us improve our recording process, you can support us at patreon.com/HeartReacts. You can subscribe to the show wherever you get podcasts, and please do rate us on those podcast apps!Our music comes from “Casual Outrage” by New Orleans-based Basher, featured on their new album May Day, coming May 31, 2024 to Sinking City Records. For more about the band, visit byronasher.com/basher.
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7. Episode 7: Obligations of Care
58:28||Season 1, Ep. 7Hello and welcome to HEART REACTS, an advice podcast for all of us trying to remain emotionally functional through the collapse of late capitalism. This week, we're talking about what we owe each other as friends, as partners, as family, and as therapists. (We're still not therapists.) Our first question asks how to maintain close friendships when you're becoming a parent, and the second wonders if someone is using therapy to justify bad behavior.Stuff we mention in this episode: Power of Self Care parody instagramEva Kittay, Love's LaborHannah Proctor, Burnout: The Emotional Experience of Political DefeatDavid Graeber, Debt: The First 5000 YearsJonah Hill and Sarah Brady's Relationship Sparks Conversation About How to Set BoundariesWe are Craig Gent, a writer and researcher living in Leeds, and Sarah Jaffe, a journalist and author based in New Orleans.You can send us your questions at www.askmeanything.cc/heartreacts.This episode was produced by, well, us! We apologize for any inconsistencies in audio quality. If you liked it and want to help keep us going, and help us improve our recording process, you can support us at patreon.com/HeartReacts. You can subscribe to the show wherever you get podcasts, and please do rate us on those podcast apps!Our music comes from “Casual Outrage” by New Orleans-based Basher, featured on their new album May Day, coming May 31, 2024 to Sinking City Records. For more about the band, visit byronasher.com/basher.6. Episode 6: To What End?
50:01||Season 1, Ep. 6Hello and welcome to HEART REACTS, an advice podcast for all of us trying to remain emotionally functional through the collapse of late capitalism. On this episode, we dive into the world of work, and talk about when and how to unionize your workplace to manage your bad boss. And then we dig into the thorniest of questions (particularly in an election year): when and how to have conversations with relatives, friends, acquaintances, neighbors who hold political views you just can't countenance. When is it worth it, and when is it time to walk away? We have thoughts.Referenced in this episode: British Trades Union Congress Find a Union page.AFL-CIO Form a Union page.We are Craig Gent, a writer and researcher living in Leeds, and Sarah Jaffe, a journalist and author based in New Orleans.You can send us your questions at www.askmeanything.cc/heartreacts. This episode was produced by, well, us! We apologize for any inconsistencies in audio quality. If you liked it and want to help keep us going, and help us improve our recording process, you can support us at patreon.com/HeartReacts. You can subscribe to the show wherever you get podcasts, and please do rate us on those podcast apps!Our music comes from “Casual Outrage” by New Orleans-based Basher, featured on their new album May Day, coming May 31, 2024 to Sinking City Records. For more about the band, visit byronasher.com/basher.5. Episode 5: Bandwidth is a Bad Metaphor
48:46||Season 1, Ep. 5Hello and welcome to HEART REACTS, an advice podcast for all of us trying to remain emotionally functional through the collapse of late capitalism. This week, we tackle two questions about difficult conversations and decide that talking about "having the bandwidth" for friends, lovers, difficulties, and all the rest of the struggles of life is a lousy metaphor. We suggest some other ways to imagine ourselves in community.Mentioned in this episode:Lily Scherlis, Boundary Issues. Note that this article is mentioned in the episode as being published in the Guardian, but that was actually a reprint and it was originally from our friends at Parapraxis Magazine.Hannah Proctor, Burnout: The Emotional Experience of Political Defeat. And if you're getting this on the day it goes out, you can attend a live virtual event with Sarah discussing the book with Hannah.Mark Fisher, Ghosts of My Life: Writings on Depression, Hauntology and Lost FuturesDavid Graeber, Debt: The First 5000 Years.We are Craig Gent, a writer and researcher living in Leeds, and Sarah Jaffe, a journalist and author based in New Orleans.You can send us your questions at www.askmeanything.cc/heartreacts. This episode was produced by, well, us! We apologize for any inconsistencies in audio quality. If you liked it and want to help keep us going, and help us improve our recording process, you can support us at patreon.com/HeartReacts. You can subscribe to the show wherever you get podcasts, and please do rate us on those podcast apps!Our music comes from “Casual Outrage” by New Orleans-based Basher, featured on their new album May Day, coming May 31, 2024 to Sinking City Records. For more about the band, visit byronasher.com/basher.4. Episode 4: What Makes a Good Man?
58:37||Season 1, Ep. 4Hello and welcome to HEART REACTS, an advice podcast for all of us trying to remain emotionally functional through the collapse of late capitalism. This week, we answer a question about election fatigue, trauma, triggers, and movement work: how much is too much? And why is election-related journalism so godawful, anyway?And then we dive into an advice column perennial: what do you do when your sex drive doesn't match your partner's--but with a sidebar question of what it means, anyway, to be a "good man."Referenced in this week's episode: Lester Spence, The Counterpublic Papers, Vol 8 No. 20Lynne Segal, Slow Motion: Changing Masculinities, Changing MenWe are Craig Gent, a writer and researcher living in Leeds, and Sarah Jaffe, a journalist and author based in New Orleans.You can send us your questions at www.askmeanything.cc/heartreacts.This episode was produced by, well, us! We apologize for any inconsistencies in audio quality. If you liked it and want to help keep us going, and help us improve our recording process, you can support us at patreon.com/HeartReacts. You can subscribe to the show wherever you get podcasts, and please do rate us on those podcast apps!Our music comes from “Casual Outrage” by New Orleans-based Basher, featured on their new album May Day, coming May 31, 2024 to Sinking City Records. For more about the band, visit byronasher.com/basher.3. Episode 3: Lies Heterosexuality Tells Us
53:53||Season 1, Ep. 3Hello and welcome to HEART REACTS, an advice podcast for all of us trying to remain emotionally functional through the collapse of late capitalism. We're back and (mostly) on a regular schedule now! Thanks again for all of your kind words, sharing, reviews, support, and most of all your questions!This week, we're addressing a question about shame, kink, and finding love, and then diving into the thorny issues that arise when money is an issue in relationships: how do we deal with financial inequality? And how do we avoid letting the fact that the rent is too damn high push us onto the relationship escalator?We are Craig Gent, a writer and researcher living in Leeds, and Sarah Jaffe, a journalist and author based in New Orleans.You can send us your questions at www.askmeanything.cc/heartreacts. This episode was produced by, well, us! We apologize for any inconsistencies in audio quality. If you liked it and want to help keep us going, and help us improve our recording process, you can support us at patreon.com/HeartReacts.Our music comes from “Casual Outrage” by New Orleans-based Basher, featured on their new album May Day, coming May 31, 2024 to Sinking City Records. For more about the band, visit byronasher.com/basher.2. Episode 2: The Metrics of a Good Life
55:25||Season 1, Ep. 2Hello and welcome to HEART REACTS, an advice podcast for all of us trying to remain emotionally functional through the collapse of late capitalism. Thanks to everyone who checked out our pilot! We’re hoping to be out every two weeks from now on, and if you want to help us to do that, supporting us on Patreon is the way to go! On this week’s episode we talk about the travails of platonic soul mates through major life changes, and we offer some advice to someone who’s been devastated by their partner’s self-discovery. We are Craig Gent, a writer and researcher living in Leeds, and Sarah Jaffe, a journalist and author based in New Orleans.You can send us your questions at www.askmeanything.cc/heartreacts. This episode was produced by, well, us! We apologize for any inconsistencies in audio quality. If you liked it and want to help keep us going, and help us improve our recording process, you can support us at patreon.com/HeartReacts.Our music comes from “Casual Outrage” by New Orleans-based Basher, featured on their new album May Day, coming May 31, 2024 to Sinking City Records. For more about the band, visit byronasher.com/basher.