Share

cover art for Episode 33: I'm So In Love I Want a Baby That Has Your Face

Heart Reacts

Episode 33: I'm So In Love I Want a Baby That Has Your Face

Season 1, Ep. 33

Welcome to HEART REACTS, an advice podcast for all of us trying to remain emotionally functional through the collapse of late capitalism. 


Heart Reacts now has an Instagram! Follow the pod directly for faster updates and more relationship memes.


This week, we check in about "chatfishing" and cognitive dissonance around AI, and then we consider whether or not (and how) to parent inside the coupled norm.


Stuff We Talk About:

This Hanukkah, Let’s Bring Back Judith Menorahs

‘I realised I’d been ChatGPT-ed into bed’: how ‘Chatfishing’ made finding love on dating apps even weirder

Conversation on Workplace Trust with Sarah Mosseri

Sarah: Interview with Emily Bender and Alex Hanna on The AI Con

James Muldoon, Love Machines

The right’s callous overdiagnosis bandwagon is rolling. Wes Streeting should not be on it

Iron Ladies film

Against The Grain: Archiving anarcho-punk

Logic(s) Magazine Issue 23: Land (with Craig's article!)

Jules Joanne Gleeson: This Infamous Proposal

Sarah: Family Planning (review essay)

Engels, "The Origin of the Family, Private Property and the State"

Madeline Lane-McKinley, Solidarity with Children

Michèle Barrett and Mary McIntosh, The Anti-Social Family

Angela Davis: Women and Capitalism:Dialectics of Oppression and Liberation

David Collinson and Stephen Ackroyd, “Resistance, Misbehavior and Dissent”

Dorinne K. Kondo, Crafting Selves: Power, Gender, and Discourses of Identity in a Japanese Workplace


We are Craig Gent, a writer and researcher living in Leeds, and ⁠Sarah Jaffe⁠, a journalist and author based in London.


Buy Craig's Book: Cyberboss

Buy Sarah's Book: From the Ashes


You can send us your questions at ⁠www.askmeanything.cc/heartreacts⁠.


This episode was produced by, well, us! We apologize for any inconsistencies in audio quality. If you liked it and want to help keep us going, and help us improve our recording process, you can support us at ⁠patreon.com/HeartReacts⁠. You can subscribe to the show wherever you get podcasts, and please do rate us on those podcast apps!

More episodes

View all episodes

  • 32. Episode 32: Big Linklater Energy

    01:05:42||Season 1, Ep. 32
    Welcome to HEART REACTS, an advice podcast for all of us trying to remain emotionally functional through the collapse of late capitalism. We apologize for being late! Life, work, and the collapse of...well, you know, got in the way.But this week we talk once again about what to do when your union breaks your heart, and then spend a while considering how to avoid breaking someone else's. What do you do when communication on screens feels easier than communication face to face (and body to body)?Stuff We Talk About:Mattie Lubchansky comicMark Fisher, Capitalist RealismAudre Lorde, The Master’s Tools Will Never Dismantle the Master’s HouseSarah, Worker Centers, Where Causes Cohere and Forge Power Antonio Gramsci, “Americanism and Fordism”James W. Carey, Communication as CultureWalter Benjamin, “On the Concept of History”Scott Pilgrim Vs. The WorldThe “Before” TrilogyWe are Craig Gent, a writer and researcher living in Leeds, and ⁠Sarah Jaffe⁠, a journalist and author based in London.Buy Craig's Book: CyberbossBuy Sarah's Book: From the AshesYou can send us your questions at ⁠www.askmeanything.cc/heartreacts⁠.This episode was produced by, well, us! We apologize for any inconsistencies in audio quality. If you liked it and want to help keep us going, and help us improve our recording process, you can support us at ⁠patreon.com/HeartReacts⁠. You can subscribe to the show wherever you get podcasts, and please do rate us on those podcast apps!
  • 31. Episode 31: Everything is Embarrassing

    01:06:48||Season 1, Ep. 31
    Welcome to HEART REACTS, an advice podcast for all of us trying to remain emotionally functional through the collapse of late capitalism. This week, we're low on questions so we thought we'd talk to each other about a couple of viral relationship articles that are in productive tension. We poke at our ongoing discomfort with terminology, the still-brokenness of heterosexuality, and why caring about stuff is cool again. And then we answer a question about organizing, capacity, and crisis.We need your questions!! Send them to us at https://www.askmeanything.cc/heartreactsStuff We Talk About:What Is “Chalance” and Why Is Everybody Looking for It on Dating Apps?Is Having A Boyfriend Embarrassing Now?Laura Mulvey, Visual Pleasure and Narrative CinemaW.E.B. Du Bois The Souls of Black Folk bell hooks, All About LoveFriedrich Engels, The Origin of the Family, Private Property, and the StateAlyssa Battistoni, Free Gifts: Capitalism and the Politics of NatureRadical Emprints: Fight With the Tools that are Uniquely YoursWe are Craig Gent, a writer and researcher living in Leeds, and ⁠Sarah Jaffe⁠, a journalist and author based in London.Buy Craig's Book: CyberbossBuy Sarah's Book: From the AshesYou can send us your questions at ⁠www.askmeanything.cc/heartreacts⁠.This episode was produced by, well, us! We apologize for any inconsistencies in audio quality. If you liked it and want to help keep us going, and help us improve our recording process, you can support us at ⁠patreon.com/HeartReacts⁠. You can subscribe to the show wherever you get podcasts, and please do rate us on those podcast apps!
  • 30. Episode 30: Down with Ambiguity

    01:04:20||Season 1, Ep. 30
    Welcome to HEART REACTS, an advice podcast for all of us trying to remain emotionally functional through the collapse of late capitalism. This week, we're yet again talking about the trials and travails of organizing with other messy humans, and the importance of clarity in both romantic and organizational relationships. (And a sidebar about how much Sarah hates the term "situationship.")Stuff We Talk About:Lynne Segal, Straight SexLynne Segal, Slow Motion: Changing Masculinities and Changing MenMariame Kaba and Shira Hassan, Fumbling Towards Repair: A Workbook for Community Accountability PractitionersJust Practice collaborativePaolo Gerbaudo, The Digital PartyJane McAlevey, Raising Expectations and Raising HellThe dearly departed Big Mood, Little Mood podcastSarah: The Radical Organizing that Paved the Way for LA's Teachers' StrikeDiane Di Prima: Revolutionary Letter #8 (online) and Revolutionary Letters (book)We are Craig Gent, a writer and researcher living in Leeds, and ⁠Sarah Jaffe⁠, a journalist and author based in London.Buy Craig's Book: CyberbossBuy Sarah's Book: From the AshesYou can send us your questions at ⁠www.askmeanything.cc/heartreacts⁠.This episode was produced by, well, us! We apologize for any inconsistencies in audio quality. If you liked it and want to help keep us going, and help us improve our recording process, you can support us at ⁠patreon.com/HeartReacts⁠. You can subscribe to the show wherever you get podcasts, and please do rate us on those podcast apps!
  • 29. Episode 29: Let the People who Love You Love You

    01:03:00||Season 1, Ep. 29
    Welcome to HEART REACTS, an advice podcast for all of us trying to remain emotionally functional through the collapse of late capitalism.This week, we add some thoughts to our Your Party-related answer from last episode, in light of the latest news, and then we address a question about how to accept and give care. How to balance our own needs and wants, give and take, when the very means of survival are privatized?Stuff We Talk About:Archie Woodrow, "Your Party’s Messy Public Breakdown Shows It Has Big Questions to Answer"Sarah: “You Have To Shake Up the Status Quo”: Marilyn Sneiderman’s Struggle To Transform LaborRodrigo Nunes, Neither Vertical Nor HorizontalKeir Milbun, Bertie Russell, Kai Heron, Radical AbundanceHelen Hester and Nick Srnicek, After WorkMariame Kaba and Shira Hassan, From “Me Too” to “All of Us”: Organizing to End Sexual Violence, Without PrisonsAxel Honneth, Reification: A New Look at an Old IdeaPremilla Nadasen, Care: the Highest Stage of CapitalismMelinda Cooper on The Dig, CounterrevolutionDavid Graeber, Debt: The First 5000 YearsWe are Craig Gent, a writer and researcher living in Leeds, and ⁠Sarah Jaffe⁠, a journalist and author based in London.Buy Craig's Book: CyberbossBuy Sarah's Book: From the AshesYou can send us your questions at ⁠www.askmeanything.cc/heartreacts⁠.This episode was produced by, well, us! We apologize for any inconsistencies in audio quality. If you liked it and want to help keep us going, and help us improve our recording process, you can support us at ⁠patreon.com/HeartReacts⁠. You can subscribe to the show wherever you get podcasts, and please do rate us on those podcast apps!
  • 28. Episode 28: Hope is Social

    01:02:04||Season 1, Ep. 28
    Welcome to HEART REACTS, an advice podcast for all of us trying to remain emotionally functional through the collapse of late capitalism. In response to a question about the new left party formation in Britain, we think about hope, and organizing, and what kinds of movements we'll need to make it through this bleak political time.Rodrigo Nunes, Neither Vertical Nor HorizontalLeanne Mohamad, “How I came so close to beating Wes Streeting”Nicholas Beuret, Or Something WorseMark Fisher, Ghosts Of My LifeKeir Milburn, Generation LeftAjay Chaudhary, The Exhausted of the EarthJane McAlevey, Raising Expectations (And Raising Hell)Staceyann Chin performs The Low Road by Marge PiercyDavid Graeber, Debt: The First 5000 YearsRichard Seymour, “Baseline Communism”Ad Astra Harm Reduction CoalitionSarah, A Safe and Welcoming HomeWe are Craig Gent, a writer and researcher living in Leeds, and ⁠Sarah Jaffe⁠, a journalist and author based in London.Buy Craig's Book: CyberbossBuy Sarah's Book: From the AshesYou can send us your questions at ⁠www.askmeanything.cc/heartreacts⁠.This episode was produced by us! We apologize for any inconsistencies in audio quality. If you liked it and want to help keep us going, and help us improve our recording process, you can support us at ⁠patreon.com/HeartReacts⁠. You can subscribe to the show wherever you get podcasts, and please do rate us on those podcast apps!
  • 27. Episode 27: Giving Up the Ghost

    01:14:30||Season 1, Ep. 27
    Welcome to HEART REACTS, an advice podcast for all of us trying to remain emotionally functional through the collapse of late capitalism. We're back!And we have exciting personal updates for our listeners. But don't fret, we're also back to answering your questions. This week we tackle yet another dispiriting experience with the labor movement, and how to be for labor when it's shooting you in the foot. And then we consider ghosting: what it is, what it means, what to do when a friend does it to you.Stuff We Talk About:A Southern PantherWork Won’t Love You Back Jane McAlevey, Raising Expectations and Raising Hell Nicole Olive “Nonprofit Boss” Merriam-Webster on the history of the term “ghosting”We are Craig Gent, a writer and researcher living in Leeds, and ⁠Sarah Jaffe⁠, a journalist and author based in London.Buy Craig's Book: CyberbossBuy Sarah's Book: From the AshesYou can send us your questions at ⁠www.askmeanything.cc/heartreacts⁠.This episode was produced by, well, us! We apologize for any inconsistencies in audio quality. If you liked it and want to help keep us going, and help us improve our recording process, you can support us at ⁠patreon.com/HeartReacts⁠. You can subscribe to the show wherever you get podcasts, and please do rate us on those podcast apps!
  • August break

    01:12|
    Hello Heart Reacts listeners!Sarah here, just wanted to touch base that along with much of Europe we’ll be taking August off from the podcast to deal with some life changes–good ones, we hope, that you’ll hear more about soon!--and to have a bit of a break and give you a chance to send in all your questions about chaotic polyamory, difficult parents-in-law, bad bosses, political splits, and everything in between. As always, thank you to those of you who support us on Patreon and have sent in questions thus far. You can send those to askmeanything.cc/heartreacts. We’ll be back soon, and remember, pessimism of the intellect, optimism of the feels.
  • 26. Episode 26: Don't Ask Don't Tell

    01:05:09||Season 1, Ep. 26
    Welcome to HEART REACTS, an advice podcast for all of us trying to remain emotionally functional through the collapse of late capitalism. This week, we discuss two very different versions of "don't ask don't tell" relationship policies, as we consider the ethics of disclosure in nonmonogamous relationships (that's right, the Poly Chronicles continue) and how upset to get about bad behavior from a hookup. With an update from a former questioner!Stuff We Discuss:Episode 11: The Ways We Ought To LiveAngela Willey, Undoing MonogamyJo Freeman, The Tyranny of StructurelessnessHuw Lemmey and Ben Miller, Bad Gays: A Homosexual HistoryBad Gays Podcast, Episode One: Ernst RöhmWe are Craig Gent, a writer and researcher living in Leeds, and ⁠Sarah Jaffe⁠, a journalist and author based in New Orleans.Buy Craig's Book: CyberbossBuy Sarah's Book: From the AshesYou can send us your questions at ⁠www.askmeanything.cc/heartreacts⁠.This episode was produced by, well, us! We apologize for any inconsistencies in audio quality. If you liked it and want to help keep us going, and help us improve our recording process, you can support us at ⁠patreon.com/HeartReacts⁠. You can subscribe to the show wherever you get podcasts, and please do rate us on those podcast apps!