Heal You, Heal Your Relationship

Chasing harder doesn't bring anyone closer — it just pushes them further away. 💛 This week of Heal You: Heal Your Relationship, Sasha is back after a slower, more present summer and diving into something that came up with a client a few nights ago. Sasha's client reached out in the middle of the night, spiraling after a hard conflict with her partner — chasing him for reassurance while he retreated further out of reach. Sasha walks through what she told her client in that moment: why both the chasing and the retreating are survival behaviors, why the stories anxiety tells you aren't facts, and why the real work is learning to feel your own emotions instead of running from them. If you've ever believed that fixing it right now is the only way to feel safe again — this episode is your wake-up call. Real security doesn't come from someone else promising to stay. It comes from what you build within yourself.In this episode, you’ll discover:Why chasing and retreating are both survival behaviors — not signs the relationship is over. How to prioritize regulating yourself before trying to fix the conversation. Why it's not the conflict itself that breaks people apart, but the lack of repair after. Why the stories anxiety tells you in the moment aren't the facts. Why learning to feel your emotions is uncomfortable at first — and gets easier with practice.💘 2 weeks to secure love container is back - learn to build emotional resilience with this guided experience and the easiest way to work with Sasha at a no brainer investment - https://sasha-quince.mykajabi.com/feartofreedomsecurelove 💘Want to know if you're inadvertently sabotaging your relationship? Take the quiz now at: pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/lqsEV0Qvvv💘Get Sasha's most used tool to regulate your nervous system when triggered by your partner straight from her VIP library here - Regulation ToolLearn more about Sasha Quince:LinktreeInstagramInstagramFor more insights and guidance, reach out to sashaquincementoring@gmail.com or connect on Instagram @sashaquincelovecoach or @sashalivingproof

This week on Heal You: Heal Your Relationship, Sasha shares the controversial things about healthy relationships she thinks a lot but doesn’t always say out loud. 🌊From why safety was never your partner’s job, to why “I don’t have time” is never really about time, to why nobody is coming to save you—these are eight truths that might sting, but Sasha believes they’re worth hearing. Healing your relationship starts with turning the lens inward.Soulful Trio Reflection Questions for this week:What really resonated with you today?What can you acknowledge that you’ve been feeling or going through lately that’s felt really hard and why has it felt hard?What is something you are outsourcing to your partner or even to other relationships in your life that you are not giving to yourself?In this episode, you’ll discover:It is never your partner’s job to make you feel safeWe blame our partners for avoidance because we don’t want to do the inner work to heal our own anxietyYour partner doesn’t make you insecure—it has to already be alive in you to be triggeredWhen we say we don’t have time, we really don’t trust ourselves to follow throughWe don’t have a confidence and communication problem, we have a lack of safety in the nervous systemUnderstanding your nervous system responses is far more valuable than judging your partner’sNobody is coming to save youSecure women take the lens within versus projecting it outward💘 2 weeks to secure love container is back - learn to build emotional resilience with this guided experience and the easiest way to work with Sasha at a no brainer investment - https://sasha-quince.mykajabi.com/feartofreedomsecurelove 💘Want to know if you're inadvertently sabotaging your relationship? Take the quiz now at: pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/lqsEV0Qvvv💘Get Sasha's most used tool to regulate your nervous system when triggered by your partner straight from her VIP library here - Regulation ToolLearn more about Sasha Quince:LinktreeInstagramInstagramFor more insights and guidance, reach out to sashaquincementoring@gmail.com or connect on Instagram @sashaquincelovecoach or @sashalivingproof.

This week on Heal You: Heal Your Relationship, Sasha gets real about the one thing she believes we're all running from—our own emotions—and why handing that job to our partners only deepens the suffering. 🌊Sasha opens up about why sitting with discomfort feels like death to the nervous system, especially if no one modeled emotional safety for us growing up, and how just naming a feeling can soften its grip almost instantly. She shares a personal story about a bathroom mishap with her partner that became a lesson in expressing needs without resentment, plus how she's teaching her own kids to name their feelings instead of acting them out. Healing your relationship starts with becoming your own emotional safety container.Soulful Trio Reflection Questions for this week:What is an emotion that's been coming up lately for you?Why does it make sense that it's been coming up?Repeat after me: I'm allowed to feel this and I don't have to change anything.In this episode, you’ll discover:Why running from your emotions creates deeper suffering than feeling them The wave-in-the-ocean metaphor: why every emotion will eventually crash if you let it How to read anger and anxiety as information instead of "good" or "bad" feelings Why your thoughts drive your emotions, and your emotions drive your behavior How outsourcing your emotions to your partner sets you up for disappointment How to model emotional language for your kids instead of just teaching it💘 2 weeks to secure love container is back - learn to build emotional resilience with this guided experience and the easiest way to work with Sasha at a no brainer investment - https://sasha-quince.mykajabi.com/feartofreedomsecurelove 💘Want to know if you're inadvertently sabotaging your relationship? Take the quiz now at: pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/lqsEV0Qvvv💘Get Sasha's most used tool to regulate your nervous system when triggered by your partner straight from her VIP library here - Regulation ToolLearn more about Sasha Quince:LinktreeInstagramInstagramFor more insights and guidance, reach out to sashaquincementoring@gmail.com or connect on Instagram @sashaquincelovecoach or @sashalivingproof

This week on Heal You: Heal Your Relationship, Sasha gets into something she sees in almost every woman she works with: the fear of abandonment, and why she thinks people have it backwards about how hard healing actually is. 💛Sasha shares the idea of insourcing versus outsourcing, and digs into the everyday patterns that are quietly harder to live with than the fear itself — the overthinking spiral after a disagreement, the urge to control every outcome so a partner never gets the chance to lead, the needs that get swallowed until they erupt, the standoff of waiting for someone else to reach out first. She also opens up about a recent moment with her own partner to show what it actually looks like to choose connection over ego in real time. If healing has always felt like the harder option, this episode makes the case for the opposite.Soulful Trio Reflection Questions for this week:What part best resonated with you?What is something you can insource today?Whichever one you chose, say it to yourself right now.In this episode, you’ll discover:Why overthinking is harder than facing the fear underneath it.How controlling outcomes creates a more passive partner.What holding your needs in does to your nervous system.Why waiting for someone else to break the silence keeps you on opposing teams.How insourcing builds a safety no one else can give you.💘 2 weeks to secure love container is back - learn to build emotional resilience with this guided experience and the easiest way to work with Sasha at a no brainer investment - https://sasha-quince.mykajabi.com/feartofreedomsecurelove 💘Want to know if you're inadvertently sabotaging your relationship? Take the quiz now at: pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/lqsEV0Qvvv💘Get Sasha's most used tool to regulate your nervous system when triggered by your partner straight from her VIP library here - Regulation ToolLearn more about Sasha Quince:LinktreeInstagramInstagramFor more insights and guidance, reach out to sashaquincementoring@gmail.com or connect on Instagram @sashaquincelovecoach or @sashalivingproof

Sasha shares on losing her father 36 years ago and the blessings and legacy left from his departure. We look into the core wounds created from childhood, how to self soothe and understand your past is information for your present day struggles.This week on Heal You: Heal Your Relationship, Sasha hits record on one of her most personal episodes yet — and it wasn't even planned. 💛Sasha shares why June 5th isn't a day of grief for her anymore, even though it marks 36 years since she lost her dad at seven years old. She opens up about the guilt she carried for decades over something she never actually said, the moment her son turning seven cracked everything open, and the three-part healing journey that took her from chronic dysregulation and dark spiraling to genuine peace. She also gets into why time doesn't heal core wounds — and what it actually takes to soothe them. If you've been quietly carrying something old that keeps showing up in your relationships, this one was made for you.Soulful Trio Reflection Questions for this week:What did you most resonate with about this episode?What is something that still stings from your past? What do you think is a belief that is still attached to that?In this episode, you’ll discover:Why the things that broke us early in life can become the very things that build our purpose. How a core wound from childhood quietly shapes every relationship, behavior, and fear that follows. Why time alone doesn't heal trauma — and what doing the actual work looks like. How unresolved grief lives in the body long after the mind thinks it's moved on. Why building safety within yourself is the only real foundation for secure love.💘 2 weeks to secure love container is back - learn to build emotional resilience with this guided experience and the easiest way to work with Sasha at a no brainer investment - https://sasha-quince.mykajabi.com/feartofreedomsecurelove 💘Want to know if you're inadvertently sabotaging your relationship? Take the quiz now at: pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/lqsEV0Qvvv💘Get Sasha's most used tool to regulate your nervous system when triggered by your partner straight from her VIP library here - Regulation ToolLearn more about Sasha Quince:LinktreeInstagramInstagramFor more insights and guidance, reach out to sashaquincementoring@gmail.com or connect on Instagram @sashaquincelovecoach or @sashalivingproof.

You’re going to come across tricky people — and most of us handle it all wrong. 💛In this episode of Heal You: Heal Relationship: Sasha is fresh off a family vacation in Dubai when a simple Instagram unfollow turns into a flood of voice notes, guilt trips, and mean comments from a previous client. Instead of taking the bait, she does something most of us struggle with — she chooses empathy over defense. She’s breaking down exactly what she said, how she handled it, and the mindset that kept her peace intact. If there’s someone in your world right now stealing your energy, this one’s for you.Soulful Trio Reflection Questions for this week:Who is a tricky, triggering person that you can identify in your life right now?What do you feel is being triggered the most in them? What do you feel gets triggered in you so much?What is a piece of empathy you can have towards this person?In this episode, you’ll discover:Why rupture in a relationship is normal — and necessary.How triggers work like boiling water and what to do when yours spikes.Why “staying single until he’s perfect” is just avoidance in disguise.How to know when a moment calls for ownership versus empathy.Why waiting for your partner to change will never be the answer.💘 2 weeks to secure love container is back - learn to build emotional resilience with this guided experience and the easiest way to work with Sasha at a no brainer investment - https://sasha-quince.mykajabi.com/feartofreedomsecurelove 💘Want to know if you're inadvertently sabotaging your relationship? Take the quiz now at: pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/lqsEV0Qvvv💘Get Sasha's most used tool to regulate your nervous system when triggered by your partner straight from her VIP library here - Regulation ToolLearn more about Sasha Quince:LinktreeInstagramInstagramFor more insights and guidance, reach out to sashaquincementoring@gmail.com or connect on Instagram @sashaquincelovecoach or @sashalivingproof.

We’ve been lied to about what a healthy relationship actually looks like — and this week of Heal You: Heal Your Relationship, Sasha is setting the record straight. 💛Sasha opens up about a recent weekend getaway with her partner that turned out to be anything but picture-perfect — and exactly why that made it meaningful. From a hard conversation that triggered his sense of worth and her fear of abandonment, to a solo beach moment where she caught her own narrative mid-spiral, she walks through what it actually looks like to move through rupture with awareness instead of reaction. If you’ve been waiting for a relationship where nobody ever disappoints you, boils your water, or says the thing you didn’t want to hear — this episode is your wake-up call. Real love isn’t the absence of triggers. It’s what you do when they show up.Soulful Trio Reflection Questions for this week:What was the one part of this episode that really stood out to you?Where do you think you tend to lean towards more? Ownership or empathy?What is something in your life right now that’s happened with somebody that you can choose not to take personal? In this episode, you’ll discover:Why rupture in a relationship is normal — and necessary.How triggers work like boiling water and what to do when yours spikes.Why “staying single until he’s perfect” is just avoidance in disguise.How to know when a moment calls for ownership versus empathy.Why waiting for your partner to change will never be the answer.💘 2 weeks to secure love container is back - learn to build emotional resilience with this guided experience and the easiest way to work with Sasha at a no brainer investment - https://sasha-quince.mykajabi.com/feartofreedomsecurelove 💘Want to know if you're inadvertently sabotaging your relationship? Take the quiz now at: pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/lqsEV0Qvvv💘Get Sasha's most used tool to regulate your nervous system when triggered by your partner straight from her VIP library here - Regulation ToolLearn more about Sasha Quince:LinktreeInstagramInstagramFor more insights and guidance, reach out to sashaquincementoring@gmail.com or connect on Instagram @sashaquincelovecoach or @healyouhealyourrelationship

I really enjoyed interviewing this expert in the relationship and healing world who like me practices what she preaches in her almost 24 year marriage and family of six. As a Relationship Coach certified in Relational Life Therapy and Sex Therapy, Monica guides couples ready to break old cycles and cultivate true connection. Her personal journey, including the lessons learned from her parents' divorce, inspired her to become the best-selling author of “Bad Marriage Advice: Debunking Myths That Will Make You Miserable and What To Do Instead.” She spent over 23 years living what she teach within her own marriage, as a parent of four, dig into this episode ready to walk away with lots of simple goodies to implement in your own relationship from life to sex to intimacy to connection.This week on Heal You: Heal Your Relationship, Sasha welcomes Monica Tanner, relationship coach, certified sex therapist, and bestselling author of Bad Marriage Advice: Debunking Myths That Will Make You Miserable and What to Do Instead — a mom of four who has been in a nearly 24-year marriage and lives everything she teaches. 💑Monica breaks down why resentment is actually your relationship’s warning light, what it costs you to stay silent about your needs, and how the couples who go the distance aren’t the ones who never fight — they’re the ones who never let go. If you’ve ever shut down sexually, stewed in silent resentment, or wished your partner could just read your mind — this one’s for you.Soulful Trio Reflection Questions for this week:What’s keeping you up at night?What is it that you really want?What request can I make?In this episode, you’ll discover:Why resentment is an indicator light — not the enemy.The 3-step framework for making requests that actually get met.Why “if they love you enough, they’ll just know” is wrecking your marriage.How broadening your definition of intimacy can transform your sex life.Why marriage is actually where childhood wounds get healed.What the happiest long-term couples always make room for.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​💘 Complimentary Relationship 45 min Audit - get Sasha's expert eye on your exact hidden love pattern, get clear on your love goals, understand your gaps, receive an action plan to secure love. Apply Here - only 10 spots and application closes May 30th, 2026 https://pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/sCqDcAwh 💘Join Sasha’s mini-experience 2 weeks to secure love: ditch anxiety for trust, communicate calmly and authentically and reconnect with your partner - Fear to Freedom💘Want to know if you're inadvertently sabotaging your relationship? Take the quiz now at: pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/lqsEV0Qvvv💘Get Sasha's most used tool to regulate your nervous system when triggered by your partner straight from her VIP library here - Regulation ToolLearn more about Monica Tanner:LinkedInWebsiteBad Marriage Advice: Debunking Myths That Will Make You Miserable and What To Do InsteadSecrets of Happily Ever AfterInstagramLearn more about Sasha Quince:LinktreeInstagramInstagramFor more insights and guidance, reach out to sashaquincementoring@gmail.com or connect on Instagram @sashaquincelovecoach or @healyouhealyourrelationship