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Paloma Faith: Outspoken women, fertility, and MILFs

Season 27, Ep. 8

Is the world ready for free women? Paloma Faith feels society grooms girls and women to make themselves smaller, to take up less space, and to dismiss their own needs... and she’s calling bullshit on it.

 

In this chat Fearne and Paloma discuss the exhaustion that can come with being a nurturer – whether you’ve got children or not. They also talk about how over-achievers are often preoccupied with being seen as everything – smart, funny, caring, sexy, independent – and why it’s too much for one person to take on. How can we learn to ask for and accept help from others?

 

Paloma opens up about why she chose to carry on working while miscarrying, and the pressure that miscarriage put on her relationship.

 

Plus, why does Paloma really hate the expression “you’ve got this”?

 

Paloma’s book – MILF: Motherhood, Identity, Love, and F*ckery – is published by Happy Place Books, and is out now.


CONTENT WARNING: This episode contains frank chat about miscarriage, so do take care while listening.

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