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Kelsey Lu on finding freedom

Season 2, Ep. 7

Singer and cellist Kelsey Lu joins gal-dem to discuss religious cults, family love and finding harmony in nature. Growing up in a strict Jehovah’s Witness household, Kelsey Lu often got into trouble for having friends outside of her religion. Delving into her moments of rebellion and the associated guilt that came alongside them, Kelsey Lu explains how she found freedom by learning to accept herself.


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