Growing Through Grief

Very often, life gets so busy and noisy that we don't have the time to go after our desires or hear them. We think we need certain things to achieve happiness; we believe we will feel better after putting our hands on tangible material things. That works, sometimes; we feel better, but that kind of joy is not meant to last.In today's episode, we take a step back from our fast-paced life and remain in silence to hear the heart of our desire. We explore the importance of staying connected to ourselves and others and how to use those connections to build a better relationship with our mental and physical health.We also discuss the role of focus and curiosity on our life outcomes and what we attract based on what we decide to focus on. We dive deep into how to redirect that focus, and how curiosity can help us learn more about our relationship with ourselves, our traumas, and the growth we can experience.In This Episode, You Will Learn:Why it's so hard to get curious about the desires that come from the heart (2:54)About the time we waste chasing the wrong things (4:26)The three things I did to connect with the heart of my desire (5:48)Why we must remain curious, even about the painful things (10:28)About being aware of where is our focus and what are the things we attract into our lives (17:38)Resources:Growing Through Grief System - Book NowLet's Connect!FacebookTwitterInstagramLinkedInWebsiteFacebook Group - Growing Through Grief TogetherEmail: diana@coachingtotheheart.org

The inspiring Dr. Naeema Olatunji is visiting us today to talk about the healing process of souls and spirits from racialized trauma.Dr. Naeema Olatunji is a Doctor of Chiropractic, Owner of Elevate Family Chiropractic, host of Elevate NOW! podcast, and author of "Raised as a Lie," a memoir born from a healing process that took her decades to come to terms with. Dr. Naeema was the only Brown person in a white family; her Black heritage was hidden in plain sight and never discussed. She grew up as an outsider, feeling invisible, where her presence wasn't celebrated but tolerated.In this episode, Dr. Naeema kindly shared her story, her upbringing, and the moment her life turned upside down at 18 when her life was threatened by a hate crime, which made her ask questions about her origin.Throughout our conversation, we explore the intricacies of healing from racialized trauma, the importance of being grateful for our losses, and the grief they provoke in us, pushing us to grow and become better versions of ourselves. Dr. Naeema describes her process of discovering herself as a Black woman, the pain and the rejection suffered, and how she freed herself from that prolonged grief.Some Questions I Ask:Why do you feel it is so crucial for you to tell your story? (12:26)Can you unpack the lies you talk about in your book? (21:31)How did you come to embrace the parts you grew up hating about yourself? (32:10)In This Episode, You Will Learn:How becoming a Chiropractor felt like reaching an extension of Dr. Naeema's tribe (5:59)The walls Dr. Naeema built around her heart throughout her life (15:21)Dr. Naeema describes the feeling of hiding so much under the rug until it becomes a mountain (19:43)Attachment vs. authenticity (29:27)Dr. Naeema's experiences at College, embracing her Blackness (36:36)The importance of bringing awareness towards ancestral trauma (45:41)Resources:Elevate Family Chiropractic websiteElevate NOW! podcastBook: Naeema Olatunji - Raised as a LieGrowing Through Grief System - Book NowConnect with Dr. Naeema:LinkedInLet's Connect!FacebookTwitterInstagramLinkedInWebsiteFacebook Group - Growing Through Grief Together

Healing from abuse, especially for women, who understand and feel their bodies as their "queendom," their sacred castle, is extraordinarily challenging and multilayered. That healing process could translate into never letting anyone touch them again or opening themselves to everyone. It could also become an eating disorder, getting a bigger and thicker shell to protect the self.Visiting us today is Edy Nathan to talk about sexual grief or the response to a sexually traumatic event and how to dance with grief instead of rejecting it.Edy is an author, keynote speaker, licensed therapist, and grief expert. She is a certified sex therapist from the American Association of Sex Therapists, a hypnotherapist, and an Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) practitioner with more than 20 years of experience.In this episode, we dive into Edy's grief stories, childhood traumas, and how she got into the grief recovery realm. We talk about the importance of creating our rituals of wisdom, using toys and games to reconnect and develop the self, and the importance of active listening when trying to help others deal with their grief.We also talk about generational trauma and why women must reunite and stop competing with each other. Edy kindly shared a beautiful story, full of golden nuggets of wisdom and bits of her new book, which is soon to be published.Some Questions I Ask:You lived in this multicultural environment and then moved to an all-white one. And those experiences there created some grief experiences. Could you talk a bit about that? (7:47)What things did you do to support yourself during that moment of your life when you felt you didn't belong? (13:31)In This Episode, You Will Learn:Edy talks about her grief experiences in life (9:45)Edy explains how games and playing can help us rebuild ourselves and how playing with clay helped her (13:32)Edy talks about the importance of identifying what kind of hunger we are feeling when we feel the urge to eat (19:08)Edy describes the importance of listening to those suffering and grieving (26:26)Edy and Diana talk about generational trauma (32:13)Edy shares details of her new book (40:37)Resources:Edy Nathan's websiteBook: Edy Nathan - It's Grief: The Dance of Self-Discovery Through Trauma and LossGrowing Through Grief System - Book NowConnect with Edy:LinkedInInstagramTwitterFacebookYouTubeLet's Connect!FacebookTwitter