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Ep 86: Being a Changemaker, Fawning and Growing Up in Motherhood with Kemi Omijeh

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In episode 86 Cath was joined by Psychotherapist, Speaker and Clinical Supervisor Kemi Omijeh. Cath and Kemi talked about Kemi's journey to motherhood, how her own parenting differs from the parenting she received and how she centres her children and supports them in getting their needs met. Kemi talked about being a changemaker in workplaces which are predominantly white and how exhausting that is, fawning, people pleasing and much more about Kemi continues to grow herself up and be her authentic self wherever she goes. 


Kemi Omijeh is a registered psychotherapist and clinical supervisor working with children and families for over 15 years. She is also a trainer and speaker with her specialist subjects being cultural competence, racial identity, racial trauma and antiracist practices in education.


Kemi champions inclusive mental health for children and young people and states that support for young people should include a consideration of the child’s context, culture and identity. Kemi believes in preventing the onset of significant mental health difficulties in children and young people by fostering an environment that is child centred and fosters connection and belonging. She works with organisations to support them to develop antiracist practices and a trauma informed approach. Kemi passionately believes that good mental health is the foundation for success across all areas of life. She has a special passion for and extensive experience working in schools, and with families.


Kemi is a Black woman in a leadership position and has both lived experience and psychological understanding of the impact of navigating a predominantly white workspace. As a result, is passionate about providing awareness and tools to support and advance Black women in leadership roles without sacrificing their mental health and wellbeing.


Kemi’s passion is normalising talking about mental health and ensuring we are all investing in our mental health as we would our physical health.


She has been featured on BBC Bitesize, Huffpost UK and The Irish Times, and was the Resident Therapist for the BBC Docuseries 'Mimi On a Mission'. She has worked with many organisations including the NHS, Anna Freud Centre and Kings College.

 

Connect with Kemi Omijeh below

Web: kemiomijeh.com/

Instagram: therapy_with_kemi

Twitter: therapy_with_kemi

LinkedIn: Kemi O


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