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Putting Pen To Paper For Grief Release with Joel Harris

Ep. 130

It doesn't matter how long it takes or how many years have passed after losing a loved one; writing about it will always make you feel better. 


In this episode, I'm joined by the Memoirist, Voracious Reader, and Author Joel Harris. Joel advocates optimism in grieving and has a magnificent talent for turning real-life events and anecdotes into captivating stories. After Joel's son died tragically trying to save a dog from drowning, he decided to keep his memory alive, and, using his extraordinary storytelling talents, he wrote "Searching for Steve." 


Throughout this episode, Joel talks about how putting pen to paper helped him cope with his son's tragic death and how getting in touch with other grievers helped him realize he wasn't alone, nor the only one suffering. We also discuss the healing properties of the written word, our dreams' role in writing, and the importance of paying attention to serendipity in life. 


Additionally, we learn about Steve's life in Nicaragua, his role as an educator, the grit he showed throughout his life, and much more. 


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • Joel talks about his lifelong passion for writing (2:10)
  • A bit about Steve's life in Nicaragua (10:50)
  • About Joel's book and how he included Steve's point of view in it (19:40)
  • Dreams and literature (26:10)
  • Joel shares his thoughts on formal education, and we are teaching our kids (32:00)
  • About Steve's impact in a troubled country (38:30)


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