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Owning Grief Is An Act of Liberation. Insights for A Joy-filled Life Despite Loss with Shauna Dukes

Ep. 242

How ready are you to embrace grief as a natural part of life?


In this episode together, I'm excited to bring Shauna Dukes back to the show. This time, the best-selling author of "Even If: A Holistic Approach to Grief & Living a Joy-Filled Life With Loss," joins us to talk about the liberating power of embracing grief, and how vulnerability opened a path right into her purpose. Shauna is an NTP (Nutritional Therapy Practitioner), Life Coach, Author, LMT(Licensed Massage Therapist), and is deeply in love with all things holistic.


Throughout this episode, Shauna talks with me about her grief journey after her book was published, and how she wrestled with the idea that grief was this massive, scary monster creeping in the dark that would forever chase her. She also talks about the Holistic Grief Academy for Mothers she created, how mothers who join the academy heal and become part of her healing process, and how it all changed when she realized grief isn't a monster but part of who she is.


Tune in and listen to episode 242 of Grief and Happiness and discover how to live a joy-filled life despite the sorrow of the most painful losses. 


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • "If you want to make God laugh, tell him your plans," Shauna talks about this new stage in her life (1:40)
  • Often, we think we are the only ones grieving (5:50)
  • Don't be scared of being vulnerable (9:10)
  • Shauna talks about how she stopped herself from being an emotional zombie (13:20)
  • What is the Holistic Grief Academy for Mothers and how it helps people dealing with the loss of a child (20:20)


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