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Normalizing Little-known Aspects of Grief: Insights from Claire Willis

Ep. 266

There are aspects of grief most people resist normalizing, like accepting it is not a linear path, and that can make us lash out at others in anger.


In this episode, I'm joined by the Clinical Social Worker and Author Claire Willis. Claire has over 30 years of experience both as a volunteer and a social worker in hospice care and also leads bereavement, end-of-life support, and therapeutic writing groups.


It was leading these groups she realized many of the attendants had this wrong idea that dealing with grief is a linear path, which motivated her to write her two books, "Opening To Grief" and "Lasting Words."


Throughout this episode, Claire sheds light on little-known aspects of grief, like the anger it can provoke, and invites us to normalize its various expressions. You'll also hear about why she believes grievers are not alone as long as they can ways to express themselves, what is a Sudden Temporary Upsurge of Grief, and why you shouldn't worry if you experience one.

Plus, Claire talks about ambiguous loss, primary and secondary loss, shares practical resources for holding grief, and much more.


Tune in and listen to episode 266 of Grief and Happiness, and take a step further in understanding the multiple expressions of grief and how to better deal with them.


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • There is no linear path in grief (1:30)
  • Being angry and lashing out might become part of a grieving process (4:50)
  • Grief and its cultural blockages (9:30)
  • How to deal with ambiguous loss (11:40)
  • Sudden Temporary Upsurge of grief (16:20)
  • Claire shares actionable tips for holding grief (19:50)


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