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Healing After Heartbreak. How To Survive A Traumatic Divorce with Ben Brown

Ep. 258

How hard is it to regain the sense of self and purpose after a traumatic divorce?


The intense emotional pain of divorce can be as debilitating as physical pain, and, in many cases, it can materialize in our bodies. Becoming aware of this pain and seeking professional support is crucial for healing.


In today's episode, I'm joined by Ben Brown, who shares his experiences navigating the deep emotional turmoil that follows a divorce. Ben is a Sales Coach, Author, and Speaker with over 20 years of experience selling anything from stocks to cars to medical devices. As a successful entrepreneur, father of two, former Marine, and mentor, Ben brings a unique perspective on resilience and personal growth.


Throughout our conversation, Ben talks about the physical manifestations of emotional pain, the importance of looking for professional help to deal with it, and practical steps to start healing after divorce. Ben also shares his thoughts on why navigating divorce is so hard, offers valuable tools to overcome the grief of divorce, and much more.


Tune in and listen to episode 258 of Grief and Happiness, learn more about Ben Brown's grief story, and gain tools to rebuild your life after a traumatic divorce.


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • A bit about Ben's background and the beginning of his grief story (2:00)
  • Learning that it takes time to heal from divorce the hard way (5:30)
  • You are all alone in the world after one statement (10:00)
  • About Ben's healing journey from experiencing physical pain to thrive (14:50)
  • How storytelling can help you heal (19:40)
  • Nothing means nothing unless you attach an emotion to it (24:10)


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