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Handling Grief: A Unique Approach to Reclaiming Your Life with Ghulam Fernandes

Ep. 226

Is there a way to navigate grief and loss more effectively? Is it possible to reclaim your life and find peace amidst the pain? 


In today's episode, I'm joined by Grief Transformation Coach and Founder of Handling Grief, Ghulam Fernandes. Ghulam learned the hard way that time doesn't heal all. The unexpectedly painful loss of her brother made her realize she hadn't dealt with her mother's death, who passed away when she was only 13. Looking for answers to deal with the unresolved grief from her mother's death and facing her own mortality, she discovered an action-based, step-by-step process for handling grief, which, eventually, she used as a pillar to create her unique Handling Grief Programme. 


Throughout this episode, Ghulam and I discuss the differences between traditional grief counseling and Ghulam's approach, the lessons she learned from her grief experiences, and the importance of recognizing that every grief journey is unique. Ghulam also shares practical tips on supporting someone through grief, how to avoid unhelpful comments, and why practical help is much better than saying: "let me know if you need anything." 


Ghulam also shares her thoughts on resilience and finding happiness after loss, why it is crucial to recognize grief's long-term effects, the significance of staying in touch and providing ongoing support to grievers, and more.


Tune in to episode 226 and find out how to regain peace, productivity, passion for life, and a sense of purpose after grief. 


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

Why Ghulam became a grief specialist (2:10)

Ghulam's journey through multiple bereavements (6:10)

The impact of unresolved grief (9:20)

Common mistakes people make in supporting those dealing with loss (11:40)

The importance of acknowledging the uniqueness of each grief journey (18:50)

Ghulam shares practical tips to support someone dealing with grief and loss (24:10)

Why it is crucial to stay in touch and provide ongoing support (30:10)

Ghulam talks about challenges in the workplace when dealing with grief (33:40)


Resources Mentioned:

Free Guide: 10 Common Mistakes When Supporting Someone Dealing with Loss

Free Guide: 10 Common Mistakes When Handling Your Grief


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