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A Heartbroken Mother Was Ready to Give Up—Until One Dream Changed Her Entire Healing Journey

Ep. 318

Through loss, heartbreak, and unexpected signs, this mother’s journey reveals the power of hope in the most unexpected places.


In today's episode, I'm joined by Bernadette Payne, a writer, speaker, and advocate for grief support, who has transformed personal tragedy into a mission of healing. A psychology graduate and devoted mother, Bernadette has experienced profound loss—the deaths of her brother, mother, several close friends, and most heartbreakingly, her 17-year-old son. Her journey through grief led her to explore spirituality and near-death experiences, offering her comfort and a deeper understanding of the afterlife. Through writing and speaking, she now helps others navigate loss, emphasizing the power of love, connection, and personal growth.


Throughout this episode, Bernadette shares how each loss shaped her path, from the death of her brother at 18, which first sparked her interest in near-death experiences, to the devastating loss of her teenage son, which brought unimaginable grief. Yet, in the depths of sorrow, she found solace—through dreams in which her son appeared, offering strength, and through writing, which became a crucial outlet for healing. Now, as she works on a book and a podcast, Bernadette is committed to guiding others through loss with wisdom, compassion, and the belief that while grief is painful, healing is possible through faith, connection, and personal growth.


Tune in to episode 318 of Grief and Happiness as Bernadette Payne shares how exploring spirituality, embracing writing, and finding strength through connection can help navigate profound loss, foster healing, and discover hope in the midst of grief.


In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • Bernadette’s first encounter with loss (0:57)
  • Seeking answers through near-death experiences (4:01)
  • Different grief journeys – losing friends, a parent, and a child (8:28)
  • A life-changing dream – a message from her son (16:00)
  • Writing as a healing tool (17:12)
  • Embracing spirituality and finding peace (18:37)
  • Final reflections and message of hope (22:03)


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