Gracefully Unburdened

Why am I not seeing results from all the things I'm learning?It might be because it's not practiced enough to be in your muscle memory yet, therefore, it's not automatic when you are in a moment of stress.Today, we are going to talk about one method we can use to change that...visualization.Notes:1) Make it Stick: The Science of Successful Learning by Peter C. Brown, Henry L. Roediger III, Mark A. McDanielLove you all and please join me to talk more about all this on Instagram:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gracefullyunburdened/

Deconstruction was a hot topic during the pandemic. But what is it all about? And is it really relevant or important to my life?In this episode, I discuss how I felt before and after the process of deconstruction and I go through the main books that helped me through the process...As always, please continue the conversation with me over on the Instagram page. I want to know what YOUR experiences are.https://www.instagram.com/gracefullyunburdened/Book List:A New Earth (by Eckert Tolle)The Four Agreements (by Miguel Ruiz)That All Shall be Saved (by David Bentley Hart)David Hayward (aka @thenakedpastor on instagram)A Case for Christ (by Lee Strobel)The Immortality Key (by Brian Muraresku) How Jesus Became God (by Bart D. Ehrman)

Even after all the life improvement work I've done, I don't escape bad days. They happen to us all sometimes. But the difference now is, they don't defeat me anymore. I had a bad day recently and realized it was a great opportunity to document and then walk you all through what I did. It's so much more effective to explain something as you experience it. There will be an Instagram post in a few days on this episode because I want to hear how you get out of bad day spirals. https://www.instagram.com/gracefullyunburdened/Let's talk about it! :-)As always, thank you so much for listening.

Everyone says to never talk about politics or religion, but what if we could do it effectively? What if we could take the stress out of these conversations and even build deeper relationships talking about these subjects? How do we change people's minds when they are clearly in the wrong? Notes:1) Daryl Davis TED talk: https://www.ted.com/talks/daryl_davis_why_i_as_a_black_man_attend_kkk_rallies/transcript?language=en2) Daryl Davis Interview: https://hir.harvard.edu/in-the-lions-den/

In this episode, we review 5 pitfalls I found when interacting with friends, family, and partners.Notes:Daryl Davis article: https://www.npr.org/2017/08/20/544861933/how-one-man-convinced-200-ku-klux-klan-members-to-give-up-their-robesEckhart Tolle book (lots of information on deal with the ego) - “A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life's Purpose”Verse on love: Mark 12:30-31

***EDIT*** Added disclaimer... :-)Depression: its impact, characteristics, possible causes, and solutions.I’m so sorry this episode is posting later in the week than usual. The particular topic was very demanding and I went into a lot of detail. It’s longer than usual, so hopefully that makes up for the wait. Back to the regular time and length next week. Thank you for listening!1) https://988lifeline.org/ & https://findahelpline.com/ 2) WHO statistics: https://iris.who.int/bitstream/handle/10665/254610/WHO-MSD-MER-2017.2-eng.pdf?sequence=13) Play depression quest: http://www.depressionquest.com/dqfinal.html#4) Duncan Trussell + Rogan podcast - discussing depression (52:00-59:00); Duncan on SAD symptoms = diabetes (01:09:17 to 01:12:09): https://open.spotify.com/episode/0z0c9EPbtraELUNKV0Sxyl5) Is depression an evolutionary adaptation?: https://websites.umich.edu/~nesse/Articles/IsDepAdapt-ArchGenPsychiat-2000.pdfhttps://www.scientificamerican.com/article/depressions-evolutionary/6) Duncan Trussell clip for motivation to fight depression: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=52cdlJKnzqY&t=469s7) Johann Hari article on antidepressants: https://www.theguardian.com/society/2018/jan/07/is-everything-you-think-you-know-about-depression-wrong-johann-hari-lost-connections8) Neal Brennan on depression:https://www.hollywoodreporter.com/tv/tv-features/neal-brennan-interview-mental-health-stand-up-comedy-1235850869/ Neal Brennan on Joe Rogan - 01:56:51 starts a detailed description of his medical journey; 2:09:01 begins the section on gratitudehttps://open.spotify.com/episode/2QycDxEeNEETosBqSRuIkf9) BetterHelp vs Talkspace: https://www.forbes.com/health/mind/talkspace-vs-betterhelp/10) My gym app: WeRise by Senada Greca11) Johann Harri book “Lost Connections”12) Nicole LePera book “How to do the Work”13) More info on psychedelics:https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/psychiatry/research/psychedelics-researchhttps://www.notboring.co/p/the-magic-of-mushrooms

In this episode, we explore the question - can we have a good life even if bad stuff happens to us?Notes:This is a link to the Zen Farmer story: https://thedailyzen.org/2015/03/20/zen-story-maybe/

When life feels like chaos, where do we even start to make sense of it? I discuss one way to tackle it in this episode. Resources/references:Adriana Chechik interview link (The particular chunk I reference is at this timestamp: 26:10 through 27:22) https://open.spotify.com/episode/0wzhndHpITSYR5PwlobmK9?si=df86b3f7bea145d6Sexify on Netflix - the specific episode I reference is Season 1, episode 5. The particular scene at the female pleasure class where they do a hand touch exercise happens around 19:22.“Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones” - by James Clear. This book has 4.8 stars and 127,354 reviews on Amazon (at the time of writing), which hopefully punctuates the recommendation.