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How to Break the Trauma Cycle | Dr. Mariel Buqué

Have you noticed patterns in your life traced back generations? My guest Dr. Mariel Buqué shares how trauma gets embedded in our biology and psychology, passed down through families.


In her new book Break the Cycle: A Guide to Healing Intergenerational Trauma, this psychologist provides clinically proven techniques to regulate our nervous systems, restore secure attachment, process grief, and break free from harmful intergenerational patterns. Her message transcends genetics - it’s a call to become cycle breakers who chart a new course for our families. I even had my own cycle-breaking revelation during our poignant conversation.


You can find Mariel at: Website | Instagram | Intergenerational Adverse Experiences Quiz | Episode Transcript


If you LOVED this episode you’ll also love the conversations we had with Paul Conti, MD about healing from trauma.


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